I hate to wish time away, but this has been a long, tiring week, and I'm glad to be on the other side of it, with two more real estate classes behind me.
Four down, two to go. Then the BIG TEST.
Where seeds of thought have room to grow
I hate to wish time away, but this has been a long, tiring week, and I'm glad to be on the other side of it, with two more real estate classes behind me.
Four down, two to go. Then the BIG TEST.
Most of us don't need a psychiatric therapist as much as a friend to be silly with.
~Robert Brault
I just staggered in from the annual Diva gathering at my friend Rae's house. Two nights and days of margaritas and non-stop talking, too much food, and too little sleep. The sun barely made an appearance, but just being together lightened our spirits.
What's a "Diva", you ask? Here's a snippet of a definition written by Diva Patti…
What Is A Diva?
She’s the girl you’ve known since kindergarten, or 1st grade, or 4th grade, or 6th grade, or high school…..
She’s the girl you giggled and danced with at girlhood slumber parties….
She’s the girl you talked to every night for hours on the telephone about anything and everything..mostly
boys…..
She’s the girl who was shy when young, and is now confident and sassy and fun…
She’s the girl you sang Christmas carols with out in the cold December night…..
She’s the girl you cheered with, danced with, played sports with….
She’s the girl who marched in the band or sang in the choir or performed on the stage…
She’s the girl who blushes at the mere mention of the name Coach Bondy….
She’s the girl who was homecoming queen and Miss Deer Park….
She’s the girl who thought she’d married the love of her life….and then found the true love of that life 30
years later….
She’s the girl who was always the clown, the tomboy, the rebel, and now, a strong and faithful voice for
the people of the town we love….
She’s the girl who overcame the heartbreak of betrayal, the grief of loss, the shattering of dreams and still
laughs and loves…..
She’s the girl who fought, and continues to fight, a deadly opponent who would take her too young, but she
won’t allow it….
She’s the girl whose child was born with a troubled soul, and yet she is there to listen and comfort others
when they are down…..
She is each one of us….all of us….separately or together….now grown into women who live and love and
laugh and cry with each other….and amaze many others with the strength of their bond….
~Patti Stringer McPeek
July 2013
I also spent a lot of time with my parents. An MRI revealed Mama broke her tailbone and fractured her spine in that fall last week. It will be a bumpy road for awhile with her and Daddy. Please keep them in your prayers.
My sons came with me, and while I was off in group therapy with my girlfriends each night, they cleaned my parents' house and washed their clothes.
I mean it when I say I have The. Best. Sons. In. The. World. Amen!
Oh, and look what Tom did while I was away…
Nothing like a Cyclops Cookie (or two or three) to perk you up when you arrive back home after a long weekend of highs and lows.
Here are a few other sweet!s from the past week:
Monday: traveling back in time via photos and journals
Tuesday: dinner and shopping with your daughter on her birthday, even if it's just the grocery store and Subway sandwiches
Wednesday: weekday Mass; rainy days in a drought
Thursday: time at work to study for your next real estate class
Friday: a road trip with your sons; helping your parents; girlfriends; margarita machines
Saturday: how laughter lightens a heavy heart; a few rays of sunshine on your skin; your sons cleaning your parents' home while you have fun with your friends
Sunday: a few more hours with your mom and dad and sister; your twenty-something sons reading for hours in the car, just like they did when they were little
The next few weeks are going to be really challenging, but I'm going to do my best to keep track of the sweet! moments. They are the best medicine (along with a weekend with my Divas!)
I hope your week is full of them!
My blogging group, Generation Fabulous, hosts a monthly Blog Hop. July's theme is “Transformative Travel.” I knew exactly what to write about…
On this date thirty-seven years ago I stood beneath the glorious ceiling of the Sistine Chapel. I also toured St. Peter's Basilica that day, thinking – paraphrasing my travel diary - "It's really pretty, but I'm too tired to appreciate it."
Reading those words now, I wish I could reach through the barrier of years and shake me by my tanned teenage shoulders.
How I would love a second chance to tour Rome, the Vatican, and everything else I saw on that trip, especially now that I'm Catholic, instead of somewhere between Baptist and agnostic!
But I guess I'll cut myself some slack. I mean, I was just seventeen, on the 20th day of a whirlwind month-long very-shoestring tour of Europe sponsored by the Foreign Study League, a Reader's Digest subsidiary.
I found out about it through my high school sociology teacher, Ms. Cook, who had been on a FSL tour before and was going to go again as a chaperone that summer of '76, between my junior and senior years of high school.
A history nerd and anglophile, just the idea of traveling to Europe and seeing all of those castles, walking those cobbled streets…oh, it made my knees weak.
My parents were already stretched thin financially, but they both longed to travel, too, and the next best thing to traveling yourself is sending your kid off to experience the world, right?
They got a loan. I was in.
We had meetings for months before our departure date, learning what to pack and how to pack it, what to expect, what they expected of us, etc. In each country we had at least one college-credit-worthy class teaching about its culture and history before being turned loose for three or four days.
Not totally turned loose – there were some group tours – but we were given tons of free time to wander the cities on our own before meeting up again for dinner.
So here I was, a girl raised in the suburbs…who had never been in a city bigger than Houston (where you get everywhere by car, anyway)…who had only been on an airplane once before in her life…
…yes, here I was zipping around on London's Tube like I'd grown up there, climbing the Eiffel Tower to gaze out over Paris, sleeping on night trains, exploring castles, getting lost in Venice, hailing cabs, and swimming in the Adriatic Sea.
Amazing. Exhausting, but amazing.
We flew from Houston on a plane not much wider than a bus, landing in London's Gatwick airport on June 28.
"A heat wave has been in London. It was about 92 degrees today and no where has air-conditioning. I love London; winding streets & old houses. It's kind of dirty, but it looks right."
I can sense my excitement in the first pages of my travel diary, full of anticipation of adventures to come, dotted with details about the temperature, names of people we met, and even the types of beer I bought in the pub across from our dorms.
"I got a "Blacklable" beer and a"Breaker" malt liquor…Everyone is so friendly. We all stood outside & we met some local guys. Paul, Paul, and Vince. They were real sweet & we talked a long time. Found out a lot about London."
Purely educational conversation, I'm sure. <snicker>
Farther down that same page in my journal I mention a law student from the West Indies named Kameel who helped us with the phones, explained money to us, and loaned me two books to help us with London.
I can still picture us standing in that dorm hallway, talking to him. Kindness is long-remembered.
(I hope I gave the books back.)
Before I made this trip, I had barely stepped foot out of Texas. There had been a day in Matamoros, Mexico on a church choir trip, several trips to Colorado, one to St. Louis where I was immediately put on a plane and flown home because of my asthma, and a jag through New Mexico.
But I had read voraciously, and now I walked in the worlds described in so many of my favorite books.
I carried a little 110 camera and a dozen rolls of film. Back home, I doled them out two at a time to the photo lab.
It felt like Christmas morning each time I opened a new envelope of developed photos.
We were tired of smiling for the camera by the third day, but we persevered for posterity. Even so, I have very few images from Madrid and Toledo, which, of course, I regret now, because my memory of this once-in-a-lifetime adventure depends on the snapshots tucked away in my photo album and travel diary, captured with camera and pen.
When my daughter traveled to Madrid with her Spanish teacher a few years ago, I barely recognized the city in her photos.
(I'm happy to report that this man hasn't aged a bit since 1976, based on the photographs my daughter-in-law took of him in April. I'd recognize him anywhere!)
I was often homesick and heartsick, missing my family and my boyfriend, living for the next town where I hoped a batch of letters would await me.
I even made a few calls back home from telephone kiosks that we searched out as soon as we hit a new city, but with the time difference, no one was very excited to hear from me in the middle of the night.
We were limited to one suitcase, a purse, and our FSL backpacks…so I found the largest softsided suitcase I could find and carried a huge purse. We had to pack for the heat wave, for special occasions, and for the Austrian Alps, which even in the summertime can get pretty cool at night, and somehow leave room for souvenirs. I was on a tight budget, but loved picking out gifts for everyone.
I still have no idea how I fit all of those steins, flasks, jewelry boxes, scarves, and one Lladro duck figurine into my suitcase. These days I use three suitcases for an overnight trip!
Reading through my travel diary, I realize there are things I didn't write about that I somehow still remember, despite my flaky, fading memory…like how in Italy a can of (hot) coke cost the equivalent of a dollar, but a large bottle of wine was only fifty cents, and how three or four girls (not me!) went off on a big no-no joy ride through London with some local boys.
Probably those ones we met at the pub.
There's also an incident I didn't write about, but remember vividly. We were at Tiffany's Disco in Piccadilly Circus, drinking screwdrivers with our chaperone-sociology teacher, Ms. Cook.
A whole group of Japanese men came in, probably from a convention or something, and one of them asked me to dance. Of course I said yes – I've always loved to dance!
In my mind, I'm back on that dancefloor. I see the man in front of me, see him smile, then see him reach out and place his hand on my right breast.
My presence of mind still impresses me. "No," I told him. I calmly removed his hand, turned and left the dance floor, a million questions running through my mind. Did I look like a prostitute? Did Japanese men think all American girls are sluts? Is that normal dancing protocol in Japan?
I know now that he was probably just a jerk, something I'm sure you can find in all countries and cultures.
Unfortunately, I didn't go dancing again on that trip. In every city a large group went out to a disco, but I stayed in with my friends, usually playing spades.
I hate that. I hate that I let that creep keep me from dancing across Europe when I was seventeen.
I could have been the Dancing Queen.
I drew stars all over the entry for July 24, 1976. That's the day we flew from Madrid to Houston.
Mama, Daddy, Mam-ma, and my boyfriend were waiting for me. I write that I ran off that plane back into Texas and my regular life – I had ached to see all of them – but the truth is, I was changed, and I'm glad of it.
Thanks to Mama and Daddy, I knew there was more. I knew the world was big…and I knew I could handle it.
I met a lot of people in Europe. I even encountered myself.
~James Baldwin
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We've been on a rollercoaster ride with my parents the past two days…my sister, Brenda, on the front lines with them, dealing with EMS and emergency rooms…me on the receiving end of texts and phone updates from her.
It started yesterday, when Daddy apparently had a mini-stroke. The sweet! of it is he made it home from the grocery store before it really hit, and by the time EMS arrived, he had recovered.
But during the excitement, my mom fell. She seemed okay at the time, and EMS helped her back into her wheelchair, but this morning when Brenda checked on her and Daddy after church, Mama couldn't put her weight on her left hip. EMS made another visit to the house, but this time whisked Mama off to the hospital, Brenda and Daddy in a car close behind them.
Thank God (literally!) Mama's hip isn't fractured. (I tell you what, that woman has bones of steel!)
But while there, a nurse noticed Daddy looking a little saggy and droopy on one side of his face and body. Sure enough, he was having another mini-stroke. They admitted him, too, and for a time the texts and calls I received today from my sister made me think I needed to head straight to Houston right after work if I wanted to tell my Daddy goodbye one last time.
But…another sweet!…his CAT scan showed no blood on the brain. Daddy perked up, talked to my sister, and asked for a glass of milk. The doctor was concerned about his blood sugar and blood pressure, but that's a broken record I've been listening to, and singing along with, the past ten months.
Seeing as how my Daddy doesn't think he needs his diabetes or heart medicine, the record is bound to start skipping more and more. We're thinking it's time to get firm with those two about moving out of their home of 50+ years into some kind of assisted living.
Please tell me…how do you practice tough love on your parents?
I would appreciate your prayers, but the good thing is, we don't have to do anything about it tonight, so I'm just giving thanks that Mama doesn't have a fractured hip and I don't have to rush to Houston.
Those are the sweet!est things I can imagine right now. But here are a few others from the past week…
Sunday: time between church and work to take your puppies for a swim in the backyard "pool"; a chance to meet with your writing group again after several missed meetings
Monday: working in your church again; watching rain pouring down outside of your window; starting your second real estate class, moving closer to your goal; a successful Silpada party, where you earn enough to pay 1/4 of your real estate class expense, plus get a beautiful silver bracelet for free; photos of your bff's brand-new grandson
Tuesday: people who volunteer for your church; church bells that play "How Great Thou Art" and other hymns; your son and daughter-in-law buying their first home
Wednesday: realizing the coral snake lying a few feet away is dead; visiting with retirees who hang around after communion services, drinking coffee; a gift of tomatoes, squash, and eggplant, fresh from a garden; your story about your dad published on savvydad.com
Thursday: a 95 on your second real estate final; a classmate with jumper cables when you discover your car battery is dead after class; a gorgeous sunset keeping you company on the way home
Friday: plants that smell like spearment; cardinals playing tag all around you; arriving at work early enough to receive communion; a long therapeutic girl-talk visit with a friend
Saturday: great customers all day long; an overnight visit with your son, daughter-in-law, and grandpuppy
Sunday: after a rollercoaster day of texts from your sister about your parents, by the end of it your mom does NOT have a fractured hip, your dad's CAT scan looks good, and you don't have to be torn about whether to take off work to see them; your husband making brownies while you're at work
This morning at church we had a visiting priest, originally from Nigeria – Father Justin Udomah. He told a great story about a pickpocket stealing his wallet, leaving him stranded in a small town…how he asked for help at a local church but was turned down.
He said he was tempted to get angry, but instead, decided then and there that he would never turn away anyone in need. He used the experience to illustrate the story of the Good Samaritan and how we should help each other, but he also stressed the importance of turning the negative in our lives into positive results.
I really liked that.
If you find you have a hard time finding the sweet! moments in your day, or turning the negative into positive, I recommend a book that will help: Basket of Blessings: 31 Days to a More Grateful Heart
, by Karen O'Connor. (Full disclosure: this is an Amazon Affiliate link, but I wouldn't offer it if I didn't really recommend it!)
I received it in a box of books Tom brought me from my mother-in-law. It was the first one I read, and now I'm re-reading it, even though I've already developed the habit of looking for those sweet! moments in my day. I'm always looking for inspiration. This book helps you learn to recognize the blessings all around you and make gratitude part of your every day life.
I hope your week overflows wth sweet! moments…a basket overflowing with blessings.
Gratitude is an art of painting an adversity into a lovely picture.
~Kak Sri
Good...
I made a 95 on the final exam of my second real estate class, Finance. Two down, four to go.
Bad…
My car battery died in the parking lot of the real estate school while I was taking my test.
Good…
One of my classmates had jumper cables!
Bad…
Tom can tell that the problem isn't the battery. It's my car.
Not a good thing at all, when I need to be driving to work and class almost every day for the next few weeks, with (hallelujah!) a Diva gathering in Houston one weekend in the middle of it all. I can NOT miss that!
(Please, God, don't make me miss that!)
Good…
This sunset followed me home, and stuck around long enough for me to grab my camera.
Clouds come floating into my life, no longer to carry rain or usher storm,
but to add color to my sunset sky.
~Rabindranath Tagore
I started this post yesterday, then suddenly yesterday was today.
Do your days blur together like that? Mine have a lot lately. I think it's because I work weekends and workdays, plus there was the 4th of July holiday in the middle of a week, and now I'm squeezing real estate school into an already awkwardly over-packed week.
But then…it could just be me.
Whatever the reason, there's so much going on, it's tough to stay focused. My mind tends to sneak out a side door and go exploring instead of facing forward and paying attention.
For example, there's a splash of tall weeds near a curve in our road, where either mice or lizards or some other small scurrying creatures hide. Every morning for several days in a row, as soon as we got there Belle would make a flying leap into the grass, trying to catch whatever's in there by surprise.
I, in turn, want to catch a photo of Belle in the middle of her flying leap. But it never fails: I get distracted by something seconds before we get there, and…oops. I missed it again, dang it.
This morning I was determined to stay focused. It took a lot of effort, grabbing my errant attention by the ear every time I caught it trying to sneak out the side door to investigate some flowers or watch the clouds or some such nonsense. But I was firm, and when we got to the curve, my camera was ready and I had my eye on Belle.
Naturally, she didn't leap.
I'm working in our church office a few days this week, then heading straight to real estate class in the evening. The picture up above is framed and hanging on a wall of the office. Talk about an inspirational environment!
Except for a few flurries of activity, it's been quiet, just the hum of the computer and the whisper of wind outside my window. I've thought about pulling up some music on the computer, but I like the quiet.
It's great for studying. I'm learning about Finance this week; last night we were given a crash course in the recent mortgage-crisis-near-world-depression. My brain is on overload!
Have you ever floated a river in an inner tube, when the river was up and moving fast? That's what time feels like to me right now.
I'm sort of relaxed and enjoying the scenery, but keeping an eye out for those little whirlpools that twirl you around and around, stuck in one place. I also want to avoid the whitewater that knocks you off your tube and pulls you under.
I just want to keep moving forward, with my head above water. I don't want to miss a thing.
I'm so grateful my friend Lisa asked me to take some photos of her colts last year, and that I went kind of crazy, snapping away at all of the horses in the pasture, because on Tuesday I was Huffington Post's Featured Fifty Fine Artist, all because of that beautiful horse up there.
That pretty much topped my sweet! list this week, but I did find quite a few more…
Sunday: new flowers blooming in the Hollow; a marriage proposal at a winery; a family joining hands in prayer before eating
Monday: having an elliptical when your beloved treadmill dies (and a husband who can find exercise equipment cheap on Craig's List); a note from a customer letting you know how pleased she is with the photographs she bought from you; arriving at your first real estate class across town on time
Tuesday: your old puppy snuggling with you after your morning walk; hearing the original version of "Last Kiss"; being selected as one of Huffington Post's Featured Fifty Fine Artists
Wednesday: hopeful buds on your crape myrtle; a classmate bringing "Pakoda", an Indian treat, for everyone to try (fried cabbage – yummy!); making 100 on your final exam; one course down, five to go for your license; fireworks on the horizon as you drive home
Thursday: celebrating your country's birthday; carriage rides around a vineyard at sunset; fireworks from a hilltop
Friday: a day at home to play catch-up; making it through the week with a dying car battery without getting stranded; your husband replacing the dying battery with a young, vigorous one
Saturday: capturing a photo of a camera-shy cardinal, despite his best effort; a long-overdue trip to the grocery store
I hope you captured plenty of sweet!s this past week, and spot even more in the week ahead!
If you count all your assets, you always show a profit.
~Robert Quillen
1.
I kept forgetting today was Friday. It just felt like a Saturday. Does that happen to you?
Okay, now I'll get on with the update…
2.
For the first time in two or three years, my crape myrtles are sprouting buds.
Except for snapping this photo, I'm trying to ignore them. I get this feeling that if I pay too much attention to them, they'll disappear. Fingers crossed they bloom!
3.
The mustang grapes are turning purple. One of these days I swear I'm going to learn how to make wine from them! (Alas, it won't be this year.)
4.
Baby American Beautyberries. I've been keeping an eye on them. They are the most beautiful berry, such a brilliant pink. And according to Wikipedia, they can be made into wine, too…
I'll keep you posted on their progress.
5.
Mountain Pinks are going crazy.
I love them, even though I can't make wine from them!
"None can have a healthy love for flowers unless he loves the wild ones."
- Forbes Watson
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