The first thing I noticed when I walked into the kitchen late Sunday night, returning from Pasadena, exhausted, was the filter holder to my coffee pot sitting on a towel on the counter. In that second I realized two things: I had forgotten to empty and clean the coffee pot before I left, and Tom had done it for me. "I love you," it said, as clearly as if he had said it out loud. For one thing, Tom doesn't drink coffee. It was totally a gesture for me. He knows I hate to leave the old grounds in there. He took the time to check it and do it for me. He thought about me. 

     Twenty-six years ago this morning, I started calming myself down. By the time I walked down the aisle to join my life with his that evening, I was almost comatose. I still could hardly believe this was true – I was really getting married! Less than a year before, I had resigned myself to being single forever. Then my knight in shining armor rode in, or that is, stepped up, and asked me to dance.

     How did he see past the dark clouds I had gathered about myself that night? What did he see in me? What drew him to me, made him ask me to dance?  I'm still not sure, but I'm so glad he saw something – still sees something – and I'm glad, so glad, I said "yes."

     Happy 26th Anniversary to us…

Barb and tom aug 13 1982 cropped

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4 responses to “It started with a dance…”

  1. Brenda Nowicke Avatar
    Brenda Nowicke

    Happy Anniversary Barb & Tom!
    I’m glad you said yes, too. You and Tom are so different yet so aligned. You compliment and complete each other. Also, you made three beautiful, intelligent, thoughtful children together, a gift to our family.
    Love you all!

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  2. annie lockhart Avatar

    oh yeah! i remember too! i’m so glad you found tom…or vise-versa dearest friend ‘o mine! happy anniversary! day late…but, then hey…it’s me! what else did you expect! beautiful wedding and couple…what a treat to have been part of it! love to you both! mmmmmmmmm….me

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  3. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Do either of you remember me dragging him around to meet my family and friends? I had to make sure y’all approved of him (and also see if my family and friends scared him away!) But y’all did approve, and didn’t scare him away, and I’m so grateful! I’m glad you were both a part of it all (and still are!), too.

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  4. Brenda Nowicke Avatar
    Brenda Nowicke

    I remember being in Gonzales for Thanksgiving and finding out over the phone how he had proposed and hid your ring in a box of Cracker Jack. I soooooo wanted to be there! After the previous 5 or 6 years (you know what I mean), Tom was a breath of fresh air, and it was obvious he was nuts about you. Of course we approved! Now, the fact that we didn’t scare him possibly should have scared you…

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