I remember sitting in the class circle in 4th grade Spanish, trying to imitate the suave, casual way you crossed your legs and chewed thoughtfully on your thumbnail. You were so smart, athletic, and popular, and seemed to be oblivious to all the guys who had crushes on you.

We became friends, connected at first by our love of books and boys. Because of you I discovered Nancy Drew. Because of you I tackled Gone with the Wind in 7th grade – if you could do it, then, gulp, I could do it, too. I was never again afraid of a thick book. Because of you I worked harder in school, determined to make straight A's, just like you.

Christmas caroling parties at your house with hot chocolate afterward; trick-or-treating in our jeans and white "hippie" shirts that shouted PEACE and LOVE in colorful liquid embroidery colors; memorizing sign language and practicing Spanish so we could talk to each other "secretly"; babysitting Julie, reading Dr. Seuss to her, and keeping a butcher knife and a can of bug spray handy in case someone broke into the house; the night Jim Croce died…

…then there was our cigarette phase and friendship with Jan Shelton; our turnaround the next year, carrying our Bibles, and having crushes on the singers in "Hope of Glory"; church choir trips, laughing at Howard and Don; the "Little 6's"; the NAPCO company picnics at Rockin' R Ranch where we met Jose and …I can't remember his name! Was it Fernando?

…Galveston Beach where we took pictures with all the cute guys we could find; walking all over Deepwater when it snowed; Astroworld over and over and over…

These memories seem like yesterday – we can't really be turning 50 this year, can we?  Madeleine L'Engle said…"The great thing about getting older is you don't lose all the other ages you've been." So Patti, my "friend forever," I know that somewhere inside of you the fourteen year old pictured below is still alive and well…

Patti stringer galveston 73 

Patti and guys we met in galveston 1973 

 

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4 responses to “Dear Paquita,”

  1. Brenda Nowicke Avatar
    Brenda Nowicke

    Barb, what a beautiful love letter to a dear friend. It made me cry. You have (and have always had) a gift for expressing yourself. I’m glad you have an outlet now for sharing that gift with us on a regular basis. I hope you realize that, now that you’ve started the blog, you can never stop it. I start my day with you!

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  2. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thank you, Brenda – I’m glad I have this outlet now, too…so I have somewhere to put all these thoughts in my head, and as I told Patti, somewhere to write down these memories before I forget them all. I’d keep posting to it even if someone besides me wasn’t reading it, but it’s nice to know I’m not alone 🙂

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  3. Rae Sinor Avatar
    Rae Sinor

    It made me cry too Brenda! I am first amazed at your memory of such specifics Barb! I wish I had those…I just don’t recall in that detail anymore! UGH! What a beautiful tribute to Patti, (a nd so many more) YOU AMAZE ME! So talented!!! XOXO

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  4. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Alas, those little memory details are fading from me, too, Rae! We both need to write them down while we can!

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