It's Father's Day morning, 2009, and he rises early, happy, eager to spend the day with his three kids. His oldest son, now a young adult, is asleep on the couch downstairs; he spent the night just so he could attend church with his Dad. 

The man goes downstairs to wake his son…seconds later he feels the shattering of his heart, instead. His firstborn, his namesake, is lying before him, lifeless.

Fast forward a few months…months filled with tears, with trying to piece together those zillion heart fragments, with a mind full of "what-if"s and "if-only"s and "why?"s: The dying economy has no sympathy for a man in mourning - he is informed his job is being dissolved – he can take a "package" or apply for another position within the company.

His head spins – he isn't sure what to do. He has worked for this company his entire adult life, had expected to work for them until he retired. But the new position would take him farther away from his two children still hurting from the loss of their big brother.

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight." Proverbs 3:5-6

He remembers something. A little dream that has flitted back and forth through his consciousness for several years. He thinks of his son's battle with drugs, of other kids he knows who have died and of the ones who are still fighting for their lives against the seduction of those pills. He wants to make a difference. He wants to help. If he can do something to save even one kid's life, it would mean his son didn't die in vain.

Resilience: an ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change.

And that's the story of my friend Randy's journey ….steps filled with heartbreak that he followed with faith off of a ledge, leaving behind the familiar, the comfortable… to a new job at Youth Reach, a nonprofit organization determined to help youth and young adults who are far along on their own self-destructive journeys. He realizes there's a good chance he'll get hurt again – he'll care about kids who might be beyond his help – but he feels it's worth the risk, worth the pain, if along the way he helps another.

"The only true happiness comes from squandering ourselves for a purpose." – William Cowper

One of the toughest things for Randy is having to swallow his pride and ask for donations; up until now he's been on the "giving" side and the "taking" side doesn't quite fit yet. I hope some of you will help him feel more comfortable in his new role – and help him save lives – by considering a donation to Youth Reach.

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6 responses to “Finding the Dream Within a Nightmare”

  1. www.google.com/accounts/o8/id?id=AItOawmgJkyLxDKjSpWclvUP4n4PEUDGwUm-beo Avatar

    Hi Barbara! Thanks for stopping by my place earlier. Looking forward to reading your post on love! This post gave me goosebumps, but I’m glad to hear that your friend found a new direction that helps him deal with his tragic loss.

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  2. Elemental-my-dear.blogspot.com Avatar

    Okay, that last comment was mine. I don’t know what happened.
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  3. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    The same thing happened to me once when I left a comment! I’m glad I’m not the only one! Thanks for coming by “my place” and for giving me inspiration for the season ๐Ÿ™‚

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  4. Gina Calvert Avatar

    “the world breaks everyone and afterward, some are strong at the broken places.”
    Hemingway
    My heart goes out to this man. There was a similar death at my son’s school (8th grade) yesterday. You have to admire those who channel that pain into service.

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  5. FabGrandma Avatar

    That must have been such a devastating thing to have found his son like that. I will be praying that he finds the funds to continue his work, and make a donation when I can.
    I know how it feels to think you are going to retire from a job, then lose it. I worked at one place for 20 years and 31 days before I was laid off. It was hard in the beginning to figure out what to do with my life, but it turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to me. I love my life now.
    FabGrandma

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  6. Randy Avatar

    Here’s an explanation of Youth Reach Houston at a glance. We take in kids ages 13-21. Our motto is “A fresh chance for troubled kids.” We are truly a non-profit-based program that houses up to 18 kids at a time. Housing,feeding them,loving and caring for them like they are our own. We are Christian- based and try to share the gospel and bring these kids to a loving knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. We know that is their only hope, and for that matter, the only hope for all of us. We live with them 24/7, sharing work, chores, how to become a Christian by living out that way of life in front of them. We have a school on campus so they can continue school. Each of us have to more or less find sponsors to assist with our lack of money. I have prayed and asked God for guidance because,like Barb said, I am proud person that has always paid his own way. Never asked a thing or money from anyone. Well, God is working on me and I believe with all I am that I am right where He wants me. I have something to share, I have a story to tell. God has gifted me with loving and caring for kids and I intend to fulfill His calling. If you feel strong about my call and want to help the whole ministry please feel free to do so. We squeeze every cent to make two. We pray over every dollar to make sure that God has us use it in His way, not ours. If you can’t donate, that is fine. We need your prayers worse than anything. Please spread the word we are there and what we do and I’ll pray God will bless you.

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