Who's going to cook me dinner?

Tom just looked at me and smiled.

Are you going to cook up some casseroles, label them with the days of the week and freeze them for me?

He laughed.
I think he thought I was joking.

Well, sure…I was…a little bit… 

He's off, away on his own for a few days, as of yesterday morning, visiting his parents, his brother, and his brother's family. If I could afford to take a few days off from work, I'd be with him. We haven't seen his parents since last Thanksgiving! How did this year slip by us so fast?

I stayed so busy yesterday, though, it didn't fully hit me he was gone until I came home from dinner out with friends to this empty house. And it wasn't just because I had to feed the dogs! (Normally, he has night duty.)  

After rushing through my morning chores, I spent a few hours in a movie theater with 2/3 of my kids – a noon showing of the latest Harry Potter movie – munching popcorn and trying to remember the storyline of the book it's based upon. It's been years since I read it. I got totally hooked with the first book; Daniel won a drawing at his school's book fair and he picked it as his prize, based on the cover. 

I read a chapter of it to these 2/3's every evening…and couldn't wait for the next one. By the second or third book in the series, my kids were too impatient…couldn't wait until evening for me to read…couldn't take just a chapter at a time. They took turns devouring the book in one, maybe two days. 

I'm pretty sure that was the end of our nightly readings. Sigh. Dang you, Harry and J.K. Rowling.

Harry potter book

But thank you, too, for that magical world, wonderful characters, and makes-me-so-jealous writing.

I'm not sure why we even go to see the movies. It doesn't matter how well made they are – they just can't and don't come close to the experience of reading the books, and we usually end up annoying all of the patrons around us with our whispered commentary. 

Yes, I'll warn you next time we go so you don't have to listen to us. 

After delivering the 2/3's back to campus (discussing the movie the whole way, and ultimately deciding we need to produce our own) I headed to the bank, the grocery store, home again…unloaded groceries, patted dogs, changed clothes, and jumped back in the car to meet friends for dinner at Steiner Ranch Steakhouse. 

I let Tom take my camera with him to Florida…a tough decision, let me tell you. (I think it even surprised him! But I reasoned that he would be seeing his parents – I would be seeing autumn leaves, colorful weeds and wrestling dogs. It was really a no-brainer and I'm ashamed I even had to think about it.)

So, I couldn't take any photos last night of our group! But I can describe it to you…

Six of us sat outside at a rectangular table, enjoying steak, shrimp, elk, yummy rolls, sauteed mushrooms and more. I sat between Rod and Tamara, and across from us were Robert, Roy and Darla. (That's when I first really felt Tom's absence!)  A nice breeze blew in from the lake…it bordered on being too cool without a jacket, but overhead heaters cycled on and off, keeping the chill away. 

Above us the shy full moon hid behind gauzy clouds.

And if that wasn't enough for a beautiful evening, just a few feet away, Drew Womack sang to us – he's another one of those musician, singer-songwriters oozing with talent that has stepped over the edge of stardom once or twice, but not as far as I think he should go, and I don't understand why.

He has an amazing voice… click HERE to hear for yourself, and check out the video down below that I found of him singing at Steiner Ranch Steakhouse back in January. He's much better in person, of course, but it gives you idea of his talent.

Thank you, friends, for a wonderful Saturday night. It would have been a long, lonely evening here at the house without Tom…eating a sandwich, listening to CD's, typing away at the computer.

Um, by the way, what are y'all doing tonight?

 

 

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12 responses to “Separation Anxiety”

  1. Brenda Nowicke Avatar

    Nine years ago, I spent the weekend after 9/11/2001 at your house. TG would have been 10 and Daniel almost 13. Before bed each night you read to them. I went right to sleep on the couch and missed most of it, but I was really touched and impressed that kids their ages were anxiously awaiting “story time” before bed. You and Tom raised them right and all three are wonderful kids. Love you all!

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  2. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I was pretty much holding my breath by then, knowing those special times were going to end soon. The good thing is they all loved to read, and even when we didn't read together, we often read the same books and had (still have) some great discussions! I'm kind of partial to them, too. Love you! Thank you for sharing your memories!

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  3. Hilary Avatar

    I so remember those evenings of reading to my kids (men now). I mourned when my older one decided he preferred just reading on his own.. my younger one never cared for it so much and strayed from books for a while. I miss those magical days of that routine.

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  4. Kate Avatar

    I heard this is a great movie. I hope you’re able to enjoy your holiday!

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  5. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thank you! We did enjoy it – nothing compares to the books, but we realize that going in. lol Hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving, too!

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  6. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I do, too! I love that mine still love to read and discuss books with me, but it's not the same as snuggling on a couch, discovering it together. My oldest  scooted off on his own when he discovered Goosebump books in 3rd grade, so I was in heaven that the two younger ones stuck with me so long! Magical is the perfect word!

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  7. linlah Avatar

    Above us the shy…
    Oh yes that put me right there on the deck with you.

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  8. Spanisheyes Avatar

    Reading stories to my kids…what great memories I have!
    I hope Tom and your camera are soon with you! I am glad you have great friends to go out with and make time fly by!
    hugs!

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  9. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Hugs to you, too! Hope you're feeling better!!

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  10. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I'm glad you could join us!!

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  11. Jillsy Girl Avatar

    Unfortunately I don’t have the memories of reading to my own children, but I do have some of reading to friends kids and I always enjoyed it. I also made up bedtime stories for my stepdaughters and the youngest one used to love them and thought I was great at it. LOL!

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  12. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    As creative as I see you are, I bet you were great at it! Heck, you're still great at it!

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