When I was growing up, we didn't hang stockings – we didn't have a fireplace, for one thing, but it just wasn't part of our tradition. But I learned about stockings from Dickens and other writers, and I didn't like being left out, especially if it held the potential for more gifts, so I made my own and hung it on the wall. And what do you know? On Christmas morning, I found it filled with wonderful surprises!

We had a fireplace when my kids were small, and therefore a mantel for their stockings, so the tradition continued: an empty stocking on Christmas Eve became a personalized treasure box on Christmas morning.

As the kids have gotten older, though, Santa has had a tougher time filling their stockings. They want less and less, but what they want cost more and more, and Santa's budget doesn't stretch very far beyond the gifts under the tree. 

So the last few years Santa has tried to go the practical route and stuff the stockings with things they needed anyway…lip balm, cough syrup, acne medicine, toothbrushes…

Not exciting stuff for sure. Nothing to make them run to their stockings.

I remember a few Christmas mornings as a child when I found an orange and an apple in my stocking. What the heck? My mom explained that in the days before refrigerated trucks and year-round fruit, apples and oranges were considered an indulgence…a rare, very special gift.

There is also a legend about St. Nicholas rescuing poor maidens from being sold into slavery by tossing gold coins in through a window for their dowries…the coins landed in stockings hanging by the fire to dry. An orange or tangerine, or even an apple, in the toe of a stocking symbolizes the generous gift of gold coins from St. Nicholas.

I don't think an apple or orange in their stocking would excite my kids, but lately I've been thinking of other fruits I wish I could get Santa to stuff in my children's stockings…

Right judgement, understanding, faith, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, long suffering, wisdom, knowledge and understanding, strength, reverence/piety, hope and optimism, prudence, discernment, fortitude/courage, justice, modesty, chastity, and, of course, love…

Now those are some precious, rare fruits…not that my kids don't already have a little of those, but you can never have too many, right?

Just like shoes.

And, here are a few others I would want Santa to squeeze in as well…discomfort, anger, tears, foolishness…

I hear you…you're wondering why in the world I would wish these for my children… especially when I know they've already had some of each. (What kind of mother am I, anyway??)

Well, here's why (from Philip Yancey's book, Prayer)…

May God bless you with discomfort,
at easy answers, half-truths, and superficial relationships,
so that you may live deep within your heart.

May God bless you with anger,
at injustice, oppression, and exploitation of people,
so that you may work for justice, freedom, and peace.

May God bless you with tears,
to shed for those who suffer from pain, rejection, starvation, and war,
so that you may reach out your hand to comfort them and turn their
pain to joy.

And may God bless you with enough foolishness,
to believe that you can make a difference in this world,
so that you can do what others claim cannot be done
to bring justice and kindness to all our children and the poor

Amen. 

 Yep, that would be the ideal stocking, stuffed and overflowing…

 

This is my contribution to One Word Wednesday (better late than never!) This week's word is Stuffed – click on the other contributions below and feel free to add your own!



 

 

 

 

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14 responses to “Stockings Stuffed and Overflowing…”

  1. Lexie Allen Avatar
    Lexie Allen

    This is one of your best writings to me. It caused me to reflect back on memories of childhood stockings filled with apples and oranges, which to me, were always a source of disappointment. I later learned that my mother grew up with fruit in her stockings. It was a part of their tradition growing up in the country. For her, it was a big treat. They could not afford apples and oranges because they were not native to eastern Louisiana. (We take so much for granted in modern times.) Then you correlated it to the legend of St. Nicholas which I had never read before. I now realize that I was unaware that the fruit in my stockings was based on traditions.
    And now as a parent so much money and time is spent filling my own boys’ stockings so that they will not have the same sense of disappointment that I experienced. I wish now that I had filled their stockings with the tradition of the fruit and taught my boys the legend of St. Nicholas passing on my mother’s tradition. (I could have saved a lot of money too. hehe)
    Thank you for sharing the enlightening prayer. I have never read it either. I would like to copy it and share it. A nice lesson was learned tonight. Thank you.

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  2. Amy Avatar

    Great stuffed post! We always had stockings, but since we’ve moved to WI the tradition here is to have stockings filled on St. Nicks (12/6), not on Christmas. Of course thinking this was silly I didn’t do it, now my school age children wonder why St. Nick doesn’t visit them like everyone else. Go figure! I think I’ve satisfied them at this point 🙂 I’ve always put an apple and orange, nuts and a few handmade gifts in stockings to make them special. I love the imagery of filling your kids stockings with wonderful attributes, and thoughtful prayer!

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  3. Sally G. Avatar

    This is one of the most beautiful posts I’ve read in awhile. I’m going to print it and save it ~ Values and Qualities personified as fruits, brilliant! The creative potential in that has got my head spinning!! (Which may actually resolve my own Stuffed issue – a spinning head is BOUND to send things flying, no?)
    I also loved the prayer. I think it’s a very wise and mindful parent that allows their children to fully experience adversity when it rises, standing firm against the urge to jump in and make them feel better. How else do they learn to cope? How else might they grow in ways that matter – in compassion, in faith, in hope, in resilience.
    Wow, who’d have thought such wonder would rise from the word Stuffed?
    PS: I was born in Scotland and both my parents were born and raised there. We moved to Canada and then the U.S. (and then back to Canada) when I was young and growing up — and every year, the Christmas stockings of my siblings and I would have an Apple, and Orange and a Quarter. There would be a few other items too – none that are memorable though. Thank you for providing the tradition behind that … and how funny that you’ve linked such Values to the fruit – and it’s the fruit that I remember.

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  4. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Wow, thanks, Sally! I'm glad you enjoyed it. I can't take credit for the values symbolized by fruit, though – I actually took that from the Bible (fruits of the Spirit). I agree that it's a great idea! I love that so many people have shared with me how they also received fruit in their stockings – how cool that it's such a widespread tradition (even if most of us didn't have a clue what it meant or appreciate it very much! lol) Thanks for coming up with the word – I really had no idea how I was going to incorporate it into a post! I love these weekly challenges that stretch my brain!

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  5. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thanks, Amy! I didn't know the tradition in Wisconsin was to fill them on the 6th – makes sense, I guess, since he's the one who tossed in the gold coins! My father-in-law grew up in Wisconsin…I'll have to ask him about it!

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  6. Suldog Avatar

    I’m willing to bet that you wrote a “stuffed” entry quite a bit different from most. Tremendously well-written, and it touched me in quite a few spots where I live.
    I still have the stocking I had when I was a kid, and I have yet to receive anything in it that didn’t make me smile in some way. Maybe we were a bit less cynical when we were kids, and perhaps that carries into adulthood. I don’t know.

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  7. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thanks, Lexie!  Yes, we do take so much for granted! I'm glad you copied and shared the poem – it needs to be shared widely.  I actually grabbed it from my friend Pete's blog last year and used it in another post, but it's one of my favorites and has a spot on my refrigerator so I don't forget!!

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  8. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Wow, I wish I could say I still have the same stocking – I still have candy wrappers from elementary school (I really do!), but I don't have my stocking. I wonder what happened to it? I have some construction paper ornaments from back then, though. I'm a pretty severe hoarder, usually.
    Yes, my entry was a little different from the others – it's always fun to see how the same word can trigger such diverse posts. I'm afraid I'm much more cynical than I was in childhood, although I do try to fight it. Unsuccessfully, most of the time, but I still hold out hope.
    I guess that means maybe I'm not as cynical as I thought…
    Thanks for letting me know you enjoyed this one!

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  9. Brenda Nowicke Avatar

    Although we didn’t do stockings when I was a little kid, before you were born and made your own (snotty brat!), I have always had warm memories of fruit and nuts connected to Christmas. I didn’t know any of the symbolism, but when Daddy was a policeman the police department had a Christmas party at the P.A.L. Building each year and they always gave us kids some fruit and nuts. We also got a gift from Santa, but I don’t remember any of the gifts, just the fruit and nuts.
    I loved reading this posting and as always I’m very proud of you and tickled pink that you’re my baby sister!

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  10. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Ah, thank you! I'll forgive and forget the 'snotty brat' remark, because I remember that the year I got the best goodies in it from Santa was the year you and Boyce were in charge…thank you!!

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  11. calvertgina Avatar

    In a word: AWESOME!!!
    Your stocking adventures sound very familiar to ours as the kids have grown.

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  12. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thank you, Gina. I think 'adventures' is a great word to describe it! Hope your holidays are filled with love 🙂

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  13. Jillsy Girl Avatar

    My hubby is English and instead of stockings he would wake up to a pillowcase found at the foot of his bed on Christmas morning. In it were always an apple, orange and coins along with some other small presents. I never knew it was an American tradition as well to give fruit and coins.
    This is a wonderful post and spin on the word stuffed!!

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  14. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Wow, I've never heard of the pillowcase tradition. I like that – holds more!! lol

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