A call that wakes you in the morning rarely bears good news.

The call that woke me yesterday let me know a dear friend's husband had died. He had some health issues (who doesn't by the time you hit your 50's?) but nothing that warned her that a day we all dread and hope never comes would soon arrive on her doorstep.

I, in turn, began making calls and sending messages to other friends, and they then did the same… so many digital arms stretching out and surrounding our friend, embracing her in a virtual hug. It's comforting to be able to connect that way with men and women who are still just school-age boys and girls in your mind.

Most of us will come together in person on Friday for the service and we'll continue to encircle our friend afterward as long as she needs us. 

I've been wanting to head that way to see my parents, anyway, especially since Daddy's recent hospital visit, and my nephew, his wife and baby are visiting from Wyoming this week. 

I always enjoy fitting a visit with friends into my trips home, but not under these circumstances.

One friend shared a comment his father-in-law made years ago…  "when you're in your sixties, the funeral homes become your reunions with everyone." We're not yet in our sixties, but I think we've met at too many funerals already.

So if you don't mind, please say a little prayer for my friend this weekend. And while you're at it, could you pray for a bit of rain to head our way? We just passed the triple digit record – 70 (sweaty) days this summer as of today. 

Oh, and two more prayer requests. I've delivered TG and her things safely back to campus – would you say a prayer for her for a safe and successful semester… and one for her recently graduated brother to find a job?

I promise that's all (for now.)

Thank you in advance.

I'll be praying for all of the above, plus keeping the East Coast in my prayers as Hurricane Irene heads its way and I'll also give thanks the recent earthquake up there didn't do more damage.

Just too much going on, isn't there?

How do we get back to simple? Or is simple just an illusion created by our memories? Probably. If so, then I'm even more grateful for my memories. 

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26 responses to “Phone Calls, Heartbeats, Hugs”

  1. Hilary Avatar

    Barbara, I’m sorry for the loss of your friend. Sending best thoughts your way and theirs. Safe travels.

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  2. Juana Avatar

    Yes, indeed you have had your share of funeral services, and I am so sorry you have to go through a sad moment once more. I will be praying for your friend, it’s such a terrible loss!
    And praying for your children too.
    Simple? I don’t know if it ever existed…it must certainly be an illusion!
    hugs

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  3. Gail Avatar

    I’m so sorry for your friend’s loss. I will add the others to my prayer list for you. Be safe during your travels.

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  4. Gail Avatar

    Ooops, clicked Post too soon! I wanted to tell you how beautiful that tricycle photo is! A lovely vintage image.

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  5. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thanks, Gail! One day I'll play with those fancy textures, but for now I have to keep it simple. lol

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  6. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thanks, Juana. Hugs back to you – hope the rest of your week has been better!! You're in my prayers, too!

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  7. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thank you so much, Hilary!

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  8. Wolf Pascoe Avatar

    So sorry about this loss. Sending good thoughts.
    I had to smile at the photo. “And they shall beat their swords into plowshares, and their tricycles into flower pots.”

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  9. Debbie B. Avatar
    Debbie B.

    Prayers for all are on the way.. Drive safely as you come this way to celebrate the life of your friend’s husband.
    I love the tricycle photo!

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  10. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thanks, Debbie. Wish I had time to meet up with you on this trip! 

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  11. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thanks, Wolf. And I love that modified verse 🙂

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  12. Walker Avatar

    You’ve written a lovely tribute and reminder of how we continue to connect and hold each other up in difficult times. You will be in my thoughts as will your friend.

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  13. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thank you so much, Walker!

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  14. Agnes Avatar

    So sorry for your loss Barbara.

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  15. Bella Casa Avatar

    Oh what a wonderful photo today! Of course I’d be more than happy to slow down a bit today and send out a few prayers …your request was for four, correct? It is awesome that you are going to visit your family and friends, especailly your Dad. Have a safe trip and enjoy your family!

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  16. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thank you for your prayers, Jan!

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  17. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thanks, Agnes, although I admit I didn't know him well. I'm mostly heartbroken for my friend – she lost her ex-husband just a few years ago and they were still very close. I know you know how tough it has to be for her right now. I'm just hoping I can be the kind of friend she needs right now. 

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  18. Deborah Northcutt Avatar

    Barbara, I’m sorry for the loss of your friend. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Hope everything will be fine in your side soon. God bless you. Keep smiling 🙂

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  19. Suldog Avatar

    Prayers said, of course. Make the best of the opportunity for reunion, even with the sadness involved.

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  20. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Good advice Jim. Thanks. 
    Sent from my iPhone

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  21. Lady Fi Avatar

    Lovely shot!
    I’m so sorry to hear about your friend’s loss…

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  23. lisleman Avatar

    I like that saying about funeral homes but I don’t like that it is too often true. I’ve had laughs at a funeral home before and while any friend’s or family’s death is the saddest of events, I hope you can somehow get a laugh with your friends. This reminds me again why the recent trip with my uncle was even more special.

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  24. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    We did manage some laughs!! Laughter is the best medicine, right? True for mental and physicals ills, I think.

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  25. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thank you so much for your prayers!

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