"Daniel, you're going to be 23 in two days!"

"Yeah, I know, mom."

Whoa. That thought hit me while we were driving back from town two days ago. There I was, comfortably cruising along with him being 22, and next thing I knew, a whole year had zoomed by, just a blur out my window, it moved so fast.

And now here we are on October 13, the day 23 years ago that I first laid eyes on this amazing kid… um, man… oh, gosh, what do you call your kids when they get to be so old?

Meeting Daniels

…love at first sight…

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…I swear this was yesterday and not two decades ago…

This will be the first birthday in several years I'll get to see him on his actual birthday, since he's back living at home.

I know it's not where he hoped to be on his 23rd birthday, but he's got such a great attitude about it, teaching me by example about hope, optimism and 'chill'. 

He's been spoiling me and Tom while he's here… loading the dishwasher, taking out the trash without being asked, feeding and walking the dogs, cooking dinner, helping Tom with jobs around the property, watching movies with us… whatever we ask him to do, he jumps on it, eager to help.  He even seems to enjoy being with us! Most of the time, anyway.

Tom and I got used to that really quick. I feel blessed having this extra time with him, not because he's so helpful (although that's a definite plus!) but because he's just a great kid man guy (there, that sounds right)… so funny and smart, as well as thoughtful. (I've already written tons about how great he is HERE and HERE and HERE and HERE if you don't believe me.) 

So today I'll make sure I don't ask him to do anything. I'll try to go back to my old ways and spoil him by cooking him breakfast (he's sleeping in for a change… one advantage of not having a job yet!), fixing the King Ranch Casserole he requested (after dozens of "What do you want for your birthday?" pleas from me) and the Cyclops cookies he didn't request but I know he loves.

(Why is it mothering always revolves around food, especially when our babies get older?)

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So Happy 23rd birthday, Daniel.

May you have clear paths and bright skies.

And no matter what this year brings,

I hope you continue to "Be silly. Be honest. Be kind."  

(Ralph Waldo Emerson)

Also… Happy birthday wishes to Kim, my sweet previously-Montana-now-Arizona sister-in-law… young cousins Ashley, Kayce and Kayce's daughter, Tayvie (celebrating her first birthday!)… and Pete, my inspirational blogging friend, who wrote a wonderful, reflective piece today in honor of his birthday (go here to read it – it's great!) 

 

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16 responses to “Twenty-Three? How is that possible?”

  1. charlotte wilson Avatar

    Barbara,
    What a beautiful post for your son’s birthday! I can tell how much you love and cherish him. He sounds like a perfect son. Aren’t we blessed to have our grown children back with us again for a while? Katie is 24 and in grad school so can’t afford to live out.
    This blast from the past seems to be popular today. I have seen one other from Louisiana Belle. http://louisianabelleforever.blogspot.com/
    All the best,
    charlotte

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  2. Wolf Pascoe Avatar

    I hope it’s like that for us when our son (nine) is 23. This week he took the garbage out for the first time!

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  3. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Congratulations!! That's a great start. I can't say he's always been this voluntarily helpful, but I'm sure enjoying it now!

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  4. Ada Avatar

    Such a sweet and honest post. I’m sure he’ll greatly appreciate your birthday food for him!

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  5. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Oh, he did!! We finally finished off the last two cyclops cookies tonight, hallelujah!! It'll take me a year to work them off!

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  6. May Avatar

    My younger two have birthdays next week…17 and 19. So this was very timely for me. Everyone said it would go so quickly but somehow that doesn’t help you deal with it personally! Hope he had a great day and will find his next life chapter soon…and that it will fit him well.

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  7. Lisa Avatar

    What a handsome guy he is! Congratulations to you for raising such a great young man.

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  8. An Authentic Life Avatar

    You had me at the first photo! Those newborn/mommy shots kill me!!!
    Happy Birthday to your “baby!”

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  9. BetteJo Avatar

    I wrote about this recently – about not turning your back because they just go and grow up on you when you’re not looking! I mean – we have to sleep sometimes, can’t keep our eyes on them every single second!

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  10. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    They are tricky little things, aren't they? Well, tricky 'big' things, now. Sigh.

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  11. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I'll tell him! Thank you!

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  12. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thank you, Lisa! I'll take a little credit, but mostly I feel we got lucky!

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  13. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Happy birthday to your two! I think those are the years that go fastest, those late teens! Thank you for the good wishes for mine!

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  14. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thank you, Charlotte! Yes, it truly is a blessing getting to spend time with our grown kids – I'm not sure they feel the same way about spending time with us, but aren't you glad they know they can depend on you, even after they're grown? I read Gail's blast – ah, that brought back memories!! 🙂

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  15. Shrinky Avatar

    Many, many happy returns to your precious lad, I am hugely impressed he even takes the bins out, without asking – I’ve obviously gone terriblly wrong somewhere! My eldest turned 20 a few weeks back, and it was the first birthday he spent away from home. When I phoned him, I exclaimed, “Gosh Matt, you really and truly are an adult, now..”
    “Don’t be daft, not yet,” said he, “I want to keep enjoying my childhood for a bit longer yet”
    And he was deadly serious!

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  16. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Now Matt sounds like a smart kid! My mom always told me, "Don't be in a hurry to grow up. You'll be a grownup the rest of your life but you only get one shot at childhood!" Of course, if our kids have that attitude beyond 25, then I guess we need to get concerned…

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