I've been in a quandary.

A few weeks ago I was approached by Shutterfly about a Christmas card promotion. I would get 50 free cards plus be able to offer three of my readers 25 free cards each.

I've always wanted to send out those beautiful photo Christmas cards, but instead, I went the frugal route by printing my own photos and tucking them into cheap, cheap cards. More recently, I've gone the newsletter route with a few photos included on the page.

…And then I tuck the whole thing into a cheap, cheap card.

By doing this promotion, I would finally have beautiful, professional photo cards! Of course I said YES!

When I received the email full of details, well, that's when I sunk into the quandary. They wanted me to post it this week. 

And I just couldn't do it.

You see, last year I joined my friend Suldog's "Thanksgiving Comes First" campaign, trying to urge businesses to hold off marketing Christmas until after Thanksgiving.

Oh, believe me, I tried to figure out a way around it so I could get some of those pretty cards. I even started writing a post, but I just couldn't finish it. I mean, my gosh, forget Thanksgiving… we haven't even celebrated Halloween! Or All Saint's Day. Or Veteran's Day. It's just too early to think about Christmas cards.

Because this whole campaign isn't just about Thanksgiving. It's about time and seasons and silence and space and simplifying.  It's about focusing on one thing at a time and giving it all you've got, everything it deserves. It's about truly experiencing a season, thinking about what it means and being in the moment, not rushing ahead. 

If you feel there's not time to prepare for Christmas if you wait until after Thanksgiving, perhaps you're making it too complicated. Trying to do too much. 

Time goes by too fast as it is and life has gotten more and more complicated. I used this quote in a recent post, but it's appropriate here, too…

I’ve learned that we can do anything, but we can’t do everything… at least not at the same time. Timing is everything.

~Dan Millman 

Timing is everything. Let's take time to relish and focus. Let's slow down and simplify, take things one at a time. 

For everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose under heaven… Eccleciastes 3:1

Suldog has some great ideas for how to get businesses on board with this. He pointed out that Nordstrom's has already emphasized they won't be filling the aisles with Christmas until after Thanksgiving. So I'm giving them a little shout-out here. (Yay, Nordstrom's!)

To their credit, Shutterfly's home page features Halloween items. But they were asking me to fill mine with Christmas.

One idea Suldog has is to offer merchants free advertizing on our blogs, so I'm going to follow his lead and offer any retailer a full-size ad, for one day, where my blog post usually goes, if the ad says you promise to not have Christmas merchandise on your sales floor prior to the day following Thanksgiving (and you uphold that promise!)

I'm going to borrow a portion of Suldog's post to illustrate why I think the "Thanksgiving Comes First" campaign is important. (He's talking about an episode of Mister Rogers…)

On one of his shows, Fred was explaining the concepts of noisy and quiet. In order to illustrate the difference, he took his television audience to see a musician friend of his.

Fred had the musician, a percussionist, play his many instruments. Some were very loud, while others were soft and gentle. Afterward, Mister Rogers looked into the camera and spoke. He said, "In music, the silences are just as important as the loud parts."

The silences are just as important as the loud parts.

That’s a very profound statement. It’s true, isn’t it? Without the silences, it’s all just noise. The silences – the pauses, the gaps, the unfilled spaces – are what give the notes their power and meaning. And when it comes to a holiday, the silences – the quiet times preceding (or even within) the holiday – are extremely important. They give the celebration its power and meaning. That’s why I care so deeply about this. We all need some silences. They’re just as important as the loud parts.

Amen, Suldog.

UPDATE! BREAKING NEWS!…

I just received an email from Shutterfly saying "We completely respect your stance. If you could try to get the post up by the first week of December, it would be much appreciated."

Yay! Thank you, Shutterfly! 

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19 responses to “Keeping First Things First”

  1. Liz White Avatar
    Liz White

    I’m all for this! I think the stores go too crazy with the merchandising for holidays too soon. I know that was hard for you to give up something you wanted so badly. But, I believe your self-control will be rewarded 🙂

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  2. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thanks, Liz. It was actually stressing me out! Once I decided not to do it, I felt much better, so I guess I've already been rewarded! lol

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  3. Suldog Avatar

    Barbara:
    From the bottom of my heart, Thank You! You have not only joined in spirit, which is wonderful, but you’ve also put your money where your mouth is, which is wonderfuller!
    (I just coined that word, and I give you permission to use it as often as you wish. I will not charge royalties.)

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  4. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I'm pretty sure at least one of my kids used that word years ago, but I'll go ahead and give you credit for it, just as I give you credit for getting us all on board with "Thanksgiving Comes First"! 

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  5. Hilary Avatar

    Nicely expressed, Barbara. I totally understand your dilemma and applaud your decision to stand by your beliefs. I hope that Shutterfly respects why you declined and includes you in their deal anyway.. for a post-T’giving blog post.

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  6. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Well, guess what! They did! They just sent me an email saying the first week of December will be fine. Yay!

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  7. cynthia eloise Avatar

    it’s crazy how early christmas stuff comes out. but if you see something you like you better get it now or else by the time you are in the festive mode it will be gone.
    we just had our first frost here this week. allot of the leaves have not fallen yet or changed color. i want to enjoy fall thru thanksgiving then i’ll be ready to think christmas.
    good fight, glad you held your ground.

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  8. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Me, too! I didn't realize how much it was bothering me! I know I've been guilty of trying to get a jumpstart on "Christmas", especially when the kids were small, but I wonder now if I spent time on what mattered the most. Time for them goes so much slower. They're the ones who get shorted on the other holidays more than anyone. They need the spaces in between as much or more than we do.

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  9. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Me, too! I didn't realize how much it was bothering me! I know I've been guilty of trying to get a jumpstart on "Christmas", especially when the kids were small, but I wonder now if I spent time on what mattered the most. Time for them goes so much slower. They're the ones who get shorted on the other holidays more than anyone. They need the spaces in between as much or more than we do.

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  10. Gail Avatar

    I’m so glad that Shutterfly respected your wishes and you will still get the cards! Good for you.
    I was in Hobby Lobby at the end of July, during our terrible heat wave. They were already putting Christmas decorations out on freshly cleared shelves. I was rather disgusted and started to complain, but didn’t.
    Entertaining ideas about Christmas before it is time is a huge pet peeve of mine.
    My step daughter JUST YESTERDAY emailed asking what date we would like celebrate Christmas with them. I tell her the same frickin’ thing every year: “Courtney, you know we do not make Christmas plans until AFTER Thanksgiving. It’s a strict policy. Sorry, that’s just the way we roll.” Grrrrr!!!!!

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  11. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Good for you! I actually had to think about our Christmas plans yesterday because I know I'm going to have to request time off to go see my parents. Sigh. 

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  12. Walker Avatar

    Look at the power of words. And, the attractiveness and power of your work! Good for you. I think we tend to forget that even one voice can make a difference. One of my part-time jobs is next door to a card shop and she’s made the decision to not put out her Christmas cards yet, even though at least 2 people have come asking for them!
    I always react to this rush of advertising and it turns me off completely-it’s so commercial and in our faces, and exploitive. But, I’ve never thought to look at honoring each holiday with that buffer of silence. That’s a great way to look at it. Thank you.

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  13. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I'm truly impressed by the card shop holding out on her Christmas cards! Yes, I love the buffer of silence concept myself. And I'm grateful to Suldog for turning my seed of irritation into a positive action.

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  14. Juana Avatar

    At the end of SEPTEMBER my eyes popped out of my head when I saw in a store decorations up for Halloween, Thanksgiving, and Christmas already! Yikes! I agree 100% with you…
    CONGRATULATIONS on Shutterfly! 🙂

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  15. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thanks! It was such a relief when I made my decision and then how SWEET! that they decided I could still participate!

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  16. Wolf Pascoe Avatar

    Good on you! We need time to breathe. Who was the painter who said he didn’t paint things, but the spaces between things? Matisse, I think.

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  17. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I haven't heard that but I love it!

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  18. Cricket Avatar

    Yay, hooray… and I hope this means you still got the free cards. I’ve been on board with Sul since I’ve been reading his blog, which is a while, since I actually know him “in real life,” but it’s only the last two years where I’ve had a blog of my own to participate.
    And it always makes me happy to see people signing on every year. Yay. For what it’s worth.

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  19. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Yes, I do still get the free cards! Yay! This is just my second year on the TCF campaign, too. I'm so glad he put into action what I merely complained about! It does seem to be gaining momentum and I'm proud to be a part of it!

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