…Grieve not,

   nor speak of me with tears,

but laugh and talk of me

   as if I were beside you…

I loved you so –

   ‘twas Heaven here with you.

                                         ~Isla Paschal Richardson

 

In the last couple of weeks, several of my friends have had to say goodbye to their beloved pets. Enough that it seems off-balance, somehow… sort of extreme, like the recent weather patterns. An oddity of nature.

But then, most of them are older pets, treasured members of their families.  Perhaps it's just this age we've reached ourselves; puppies and kittens we gave into for our young kids have grown up beside them, gradually become more ours than our children's, and are reaching old age before us.

It's tough watching them grow old. Yet while we don't want to see them in pain, we don't want to let go and say goodbye, either.

When Jake, our old Black Lab, died years ago at 15, our vet sent us a card with the Richardson poem, above, printed inside. Reading it the first time was like having Jake speak to me – I knew it was exactly what he would tell us.

Of course it makes me cry even now when I read it, thinking of Jake, his "sister" Maggie, my precious kitty Char, sweet Chewy and Charly, little Frankie bird… there are so many impressions on my heart made by "God's Little People" (a term used by a blogger friend who rescues stray cats in Greece) and I wouldn't be who I am today without the blessing of them in my life.

Now we see our sweet Max aging fast. Eternal puppy on the inside, visible in his eyes, goofy grin, and playful spirit … old man on the outside, obvious in his graying whiskers, limp and dragging rear leg.

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Pythagoras said "Animals share with us the privelege of having a soul."

I believe this, too. I know it from looking into their eyes. I know it from the ache in my heart when I've had to say goodbye.

I also believe we could learn a lot from their sweet souls about love, honesty, faithfulness, joy…

To all my friends who have recently…well, ever…had to say goodbye to their furry or feathered or even scaly best friend, I'm sharing this poem with you. I hope you hear their hearts speaking to you when you read the words, as I did, and that it brings you comfort, as it did, and still does, to me.

 

…Grieve not,

   nor speak of me with tears,

but laugh and talk of me

   as if I were beside you…

I loved you so –

   ‘twas Heaven here with you.

                                         ~Isla Paschal Richardson

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39 responses to “As if I were beside you…”

  1. Rose Land Avatar

    Barbara, that is beautiful. We too lost a wonderful, wonderful black Lab, our King Rex, a couple of summers ago and even though we vowed never to get another pet (as his steady companionship and unfailing loyalty would be too hard to replace), we now are in total love with Gabbana, our goofy, timid, sweet, overly dramatic and yes, soulful little black pit that wound up in our care. Love your post and love the poem. Thanks for sharing.

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  2. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thanks for letting me know, Rose! And I know what you mean. Despite our vow to not get anymore after our old lab Charly died, we ended up getting Max a puppy, Belle. And she lights up my mornings so much that now I know it's useless to make that vow again. I'll always have at least one dog. They just bring such joy to my life! 

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  3. Brenda Avatar
    Brenda

    You shared that beautiful poem with me many years ago when my precious Maudie died, and I have shared it with many friends. I wonder if your vet has any idea how many hearts he has soothed.

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  4. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I told her how much it meant to me years ago, but I should probably let her know again. I've always wondered where they got those cards!

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  5. Bella Casa Avatar

    Oh how I understall all too well the grieving process of the loss of one’s pet. Thanks for this warm post.

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  6. brian Avatar

    our older cat is about to pass…probably this winter…we got a new one already to ease the transition with our boys…so hard to lose a pet as they are members of the fam…

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  7. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    You're welcome – and I'm sorry you've felt the loss it takes to understand it! Although that means you've also experienced the joy. It's worth it to me.

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  8. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    They truly are. My sympathies for you in these last days with your cat – such a bittersweet time.

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  9. Hilary Avatar

    To anyone who has lost a pet.. and I’m sure most of us have, those words are so beautiful and comforting. What greater gift than sharing our lives with a loyal creature. Thank you for this.

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  10. JUANA Avatar

    Oh, Barbara, what a post! I got choked up with your words and then tears showed up with Max’s photo! I have gotten to know your puppies through your blog, and I can’t bear to think of anything happening to them… Isn’t that something- you can love animals even without ever meeting them in person!

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  11. Wolf Pascoe Avatar

    I think I could turn and live with animals, they are
    so placid and self – contain’d,
    I stand and look at them long and long.
    They do not sweat and whine about their condition,
    They do not lie awake in the dark and weep for their sins,
    They do not make me sick discussing their duty to God,
    Not one is dissatisfied, not one is demented with the
    mania of owning things,
    Not one kneels to another, nor to his kind that lived
    thousands of years ago,
    Not one is respectable or unhappy over the whole earth.
    –Walt Whitman

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  12. Suldog Avatar

    I had never seen that poem before. It truly made me a bit misty.
    Would that we could show as much faithfulness and love to them as they have shown to us.

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  13. Lady Fi Avatar

    Such a moving and nourishing post. Thank you.

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  14. lisleman Avatar

    they touch our lives and that’s why it’s tough to have them leave. “Eternal puppy on the inside, visible in his eyes, goofy grin, and playful spirit … old man on the outside, obvious in his graying whiskers, limp and dragging rear leg.”
    Ha – sounds like me except for the limp and dragging leg. I’m still walking fine so far.

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  15. Agnes Avatar

    Max is so beautiful. He looks so wise.
    Losing a pet is immensely painful… I wished they lived longer.

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  16. Gail Avatar

    This was such a beautiful post and the poem is so touching. I am currently watching two of my elderly pets decline and I am already grieving over the inevitable. It’s so, so difficult to part with these creatures that I believe God gave us to learn from. My dog knows more about loyalty, devotion, and love than most people. I was so comforted when I read Colton Burpo’s account of going to heaven and seeing animals there. I actually had a Christian friend argue with me once about animals not having a soul, so not able to go to heaven. Pfffttt…I don’t believe that for a second!

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  17. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I don't believe it, either. I haven't read Colton Burpo's piece, but I know CS Lewis believed animals went to heaven and his description is what I always imagine it to be – and I picture my sweet friends romping around there, loving it. It's so hard watching them age, but the joy they give and the lessons they teach us are worth the heartache, aren't they?

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  18. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Oh, he's so smart it's irritating! I truly believe he can understand everything I say – and uses it to his advantage. I sure wish they lived longer, too!

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  19. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I do believe you are an eternal puppy on the inside!!

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  20. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    What a beautiful quote. Thank you!

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  21. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    And they forgive us even though we don't. Just another lesson for us to learn from them!

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  22. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    You are so sweet to get sad with me at the thought of losing my big puppy!

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  23. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I can't imagine how dull my life would have been without all these friends who have loved me and let me love them.

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  24. Anyes - Far Away in the Sunshine Avatar

    I remember how I felt losing my cat of seven years when I was a teenager. thinking a bit more this might be the reason I am still hesitating to bring a pet home. The words on the card are so comforting thank you for sharing them.
    Max is such a handsome dog looking like he knows everything…

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  25. Pauline Avatar

    well now I’m crying, too – but it’s true that grieving has its own good to give, letting one express with an intense gust of emotion the inexpressible love and missing that accompanies losing a loved one, furry or not. Thanks for sharing.

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  26. moannie Avatar
    moannie

    I am so with Pythagoras on this one…There can be no doubt, having once seen the sadness in my dog’s eyes as he tenderly stretches a paw to say ‘Love, ya…I’m right here.’

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  27. Tabor Avatar

    I have not had a pet in years and said good bye to my share with many tears…and this photo of this precious dog has once again brought tears to my eyes!!

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  28. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    He's such a sweetie. I'm sorry for your tears, though!

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  29. hilary cooper-Kenny Avatar

    Ah, that brought tears, and sweet memories.

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  30. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I'm glad the tears were balanced by sweet memories!

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  31. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    There's no doubt in my mind, either!

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  32. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    "…grieving has its own good to give…" Beautiful and true! Thanks, Pauline!

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  33. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I lost my first pets – a dog and a cat- when I was a teenager. I think that first heartache is the hardest. My parents have opted not to get any more pets because my mother just can't take the heartbreak of losing them again. They've lost too many. Max does know everything but tries to play dumb sometimes. I'm on to him, though. 🙂

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  34. christine Avatar

    beautiful
    my heart is cracked open ♥

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  35. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I hope in a good way! Thank you!

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  36. Ian Avatar
    Ian

    My beloved cat died many years ago and the vet sent me a card containing this verse. It made me cry at the time and it’s just made me cry all over again. Thank you and God bless.

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  37. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I wish I could find the supplier of those cards. I thought about making my own using this verse, but wrote the post instead. Thanks for reminding me of it. I just teared up reading it again. I'm happy to report my old Max is still with us, two years later, although he's even more gray now. He can even still run (a little) despite his dysplasia and heart murmur. Bless you for stopping by and taking the time to leave a comment!
     

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  38. Sammie Avatar
    Sammie

    It’s 2020 now… and this is every bit as significant as it was in 2011

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  39. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I agree with you. We did eventually lose Max, and now his “puppy” is 10 years old and my constant companion. I already find myself mourning for the day I have to say goodbye to her, but that just makes me appreciate the time I have, so I guess it’s not a bad thing. Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment!

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