A collection of colorful bags and pieces of luggage grows beside me. Today's the day I take TG back to campus to start the spring semester. Wasn't it just a few days ago that we carried all of those bags down from the car?

Christmas break went by so fast. At the beginning of it I had two kids at home; soon it will be just me and Tom again. Sweet, yet bittersweet.

Sweet because, luckily, Tom and I enjoy being together – we easily fall back into our pre-kids selves. Bittersweet because I enjoy having the kids around, too, and not only for all the help they give us with dishes, dog care, laundry… although I do miss that, too.

This might have been the last long break TG spends with us. By this time next year, she'll be living in an apartment, probably working near campus through the break, coming home for a weekend every now and then. Sigh.

I'll take it a semester at a time, though, and right now I just pray this one will be the best ever for her.

Well, while I wait for her to finish packing, I'll tell you a little about my day yesterday, spent in the World of Writers.

I finally made it to a meeting of the Austin Chapter of the SCBWI (Society of Children's Book Writer's and Illustrators) held at BookPeople, a wonderful independent book store in downtown Austin. I don't think I've every met a friendlier group of strangers in my life – the support and encouragement was palpable!

I sat in the only open chair I spotted,  After introductions, I discovered the woman beside me, as well as the two directly behind me, all live just a few miles from me and are eager to form a writer's critique group.Talk about serendipity!

The first session of the meeting was a presentation by author Brian Yansky on plot, character and structure of your story. Some of it was knew to me… some I already know but don't necessarily put into practice… and that's why I need reminders like this, especially from successful authors who are willing to share what has worked for them. Judging by the others who were scribbling notes, I'm not the only one!

Next, a few of us went to the third floor for the open critique group… the part I had been most eager for! I passed out copies of my first two pages, cleared my throat, took a deep breath and read out loud while they followed along.

When I finished, I could see they were hesitant, not sure if I wanted brutal honesty or encouraging pats-on-the-back.

"Rip it apart!" I told them. I've read too many books lately that began with seeds of great stories, but because of neglected pruning, had grown into huge distracting messes. I don't want mine to end up that way!

So with my blessing they ripped it apart, so to speak. Some of what they mentioned I had already wondered about myself, but needed another opinion… which is why I was eager for the critique group. Other things were surprises, and so even more helpful.

A critique can be painful if you take it personally, but I look at it as a really good workout… tough to get through but so invigorating and energizing when it's all over… and the only way to get stronger.

We took turns reading and critiquing, everyone offering concrete constructive comments. Writer heaven!

After a quick break (I walked to Whole Foods and enjoyed a cup of tomato basil soup at a small table outside, great for people-watching!) we gathered on the third floor again. Two of the members had attended a recent Story Masters Workshop where they took pages and pages of notes, all of which they shared with us. 

Spending a day with such a great group of talented writers (many published authors in the group) who encourage and support each other… very sweet!

And now for some other sweet! moments of the past week… 

 

Monday: a fire in the woodburning stove on a cold, rainy day; cedar pollen that's been attacking your nose and making you want to scratch our your eyes washed from the air by the rain; finally meeting a previously only 'online' friend in person; loose ends neatly tied up; joining a writer's group, at long last, to help you with your book 

Tuesday: the moment when dark clouds break apart to reveal blue sky; frogs singing in the distance, grateful for the recent rain; watching "The 10th Kingdom" with your daughter; cell phones that allow you to talk to your mom and your dear friend, despite the miles between you

 

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Wednesday: $300 worth of free jewelry, thanks to your party!; a Post of the Week award from Hilary for one of your photography posts; that sparkling-clean-teeth feeling you get after a trip to the dentist; a jingle-jangle in your pocket for stuff you didn't want anymore anyway  

Thursday: getting word that a sweet kid you know was found before you even knew he was missing; scratching things off of your list; finally fulfilling a months-old promise to a friend

Friday: a "Happy Anniversary" first thing in the morning from you sweetie before you even realize it's Friday the 13th; puppies stretched out comfy and warm on the laundry room floor on a below-freezing morning; shopping with your baby girl; getting $17 for from a local resale shop for things you were going to toss out; any Ryan Reynolds movie

Saturday: a day spent with writers; getting honest feedback and suggestions on your children's book-in-progress; tomato and basil soup outdoors on a gorgeous day; a walk at dusk beside a running brook; home-brewed beer; watching Harry Potter movies with your daughter

Sunday: a friend thinking of you when a job comes open; watching more Harry Potter movies with your daughter; a call from your mom

What were some of your sweet! moments in the past week? (I know you can come up with at least one!) Please share them here!

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25 responses to “Ripped Apart and other Sweet!s of the Week”

  1. Gail Avatar

    Wow, what a week! That writer’s workshop sounds like a godsend. Good for you thinking of the criticisms in a positive light – I liked your analogy of viewing it as a workout.
    I had two sweets: 1) an offer on the house (although low, another buyer is also interested so there could be a bidding war); 2) I started the Couch to 5k running program and I love it!
    Hope your week is filled with plenty of sweets. 🙂

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  2. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    What is the Couch to 5K running program? I'm going to have to look into that! That's why it was easy to compare critiques to a workout – my physical workout has fallen into a ho-hum routine. Congratulations on the house bid and I'll pray it goes into a bidding war! 🙂
     
    Barbara Shallue, writer, blogger, photographer, Silpada representative and wanna-be drummer. http://barbarashallue.typepad.com

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  3. ~J Avatar

    That does sound like a great workshop. I really need to explore what is in my area as far as writing groups and various conventions. I’m not too far away from three major cities- DC, Baltimore, & Annapolis- so there must be something!
    I’ve had a few sweet moments this week- the highlight would have to be my best friend since second grade has moved back into the area and lives not more than 5 minutes away (she was on the other side of the country). It already has been wonderful! Also- I have the day off today and an extra day to spend it in her company.
    Oh- and my sister may have FINALLY found the man of her dreams- we’ll keep our fingers crossed! Guess I have a few highlights!

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  4. Jill Avatar

    It sounds like that Writer’s group will be a wonderful tool for you and your writing. So sweet that you found it and are going!

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  5. Kathy Avatar

    So, I have a question for you: was that the very first writer’s workshop you’ve participated in? If it was, you’ve stepped into a wonderful world where there truly are no strangers and where the feedback you’ll get on your own work plus the feedback you will give to others will all be “pearls beyond price.”
    If it’s a world you’re coming back to after a long absence, welcome home. Dig your heels in and stay for as long as you can.

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  6. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Well, it was actually just a monthly meeting of the group. There will be a workshop next month and that will be my first. I haven't been part of a writer's group like this, just writing classes that offered critiques. I missed them! I'm definitely digging my heels in this time!!
     

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  7. lisleman Avatar

    I often read a post that leaves me many questions that I find interesting but wondering if I think too much.
    Why the Children Book category? Do you find reviewing easier than writing? (I think it is)
    “sparkling-clean-teeth” feeling that’s the best part of a dentist visit. I hate getting lectured about flossing.
    I had a sweet act of kindness yesterday. My BIL was telling me about a book he read on the way to a show the group of us were seeing. On the way back he told us he had an errand to do and would catch-up. He ran out and bought a copy of the book to give me. What a nice surprise. I don’t think you mind long comments. Thanks for sharing.

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  8. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    No, I don't mind long comments at all (as I'm sure you guessed because I tend to leave long comments myself!! 🙂 What a sweet BIL you have to go get you a copy of that book!! Yes, I definitely find it easier to review and critique than to write, especially on someone else's work!! lol Ah, the Children's Book. The idea popped in my head when my own kids were small. And I was the elementary school librarian one year. Just hearing all of those stories triggered my own. Plus I have a passion for books and encouraging kids to read. But I also have grown-up books I want to write (and I'm running out of time for all of them! yikes!)
     

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  9. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I'm sure there's something in the area! Good luck! How cool about your best friend moving so close – that's definitely a sweet! And congrats on your sister – I know that makes your heart soar for her, too! Enjoy your day off!!
     

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  10. Lady Fi Avatar

    That’s quite a week. Glad to hear the writers’ group is helping you.

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  11. Jennifer Richardson Avatar

    I love serendipity:)
    Bravo on the workshop…so glad you found a beautiful fit.
    I’m cheering you on!
    And your sweets…..so nourishing to my soul.
    thanks for the delicious share,
    Jennifer

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  12. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I can hear you cheering! Thanks, Jennifer! And welcome to 50! Hope you had a beautiful birthday!
     

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  13. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Well, they definitely inspired me. It's nice to know others are suffering as much as you are!
     

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  14. Pauline Avatar

    Those writer’s workshops can be wonderful for spurring you on – I attended several in pursuit of my masters. Sweet moments last week? Talking with my daughter, seeing new photos of grandchild #3, being called on the phone by my grandson (“Just sitting in my room. I wanted to call you, Memere!”), the bathroom floor remaining dry after the leaking radiator was fixed, hugs from the kids in my second grade classroom, laughing over old family photos with my brother in preparation for a senior citizen history project.

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  15. Agnes Avatar

    What a week Barbara.
    My favorite part of this week was the rain. It was so beautiful.

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  16. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    We've had some gorgeous days, lately, but I'm ready for more rain (my allergies are killing me!)
    Plus, I think technically we're still in a drought!
     

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  17. Suldog Avatar

    Constructive criticism is useful, but don’t let too many people’s opinions destroy what is your strength. What I mean is that a camel is a horse designed by a committee. While functional, the camel isn’t as beautiful. And taking every criticism to heart and changing your writing accordingly will likely result in “good” writing, with fewer errors for some to complain about, but may also make your writing less personal, unique, loveable, quirky, and, in the final analysis, salable.
    In short, if you enjoy the folks and the process, good! Enjoy it, by all means! BUT, keep your own voice. That’s the difference between a “good” writer and a great one, IMVHO.
    (And I think you have a great voice already. I suppose you may have gathered that from the above, but it never hurts to be clear.)

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  18. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I totally agree – and I have enough ego to listen and consider, but not necessarily follow anyone else's advice. I have found that even if I don't agree with it, a critique helps keep my brain spinning and often I'll come up with something original and fresh because of it. Or at the very least, I'm more secure with what I've written. (My own inner critic is tougher to ignore! Sigh.)
    Thank you, Jim!

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  19. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Oh, Pauline, that sounds like a very sweet week (especially that call from your grandson!)!! Thank you for sharing!! 

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  20. Wolf Pascoe Avatar

    Thank goodness for independent bookshops. I hope the group gels and works out. I wrote a post about critique groups for Jane Friedman’s blog a while back–don’t know if you saw it. Here’s the link: http://bit.ly/vhXfdq
    I love the light in the photograph. It is a Bible-blue sky, if ever there was.

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  21. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I do remember your post! Thanks for sending me the link – I'll glance back over it before going to our first meeting. Some of them haven't been in critique groups before and you had some great suggestions.
    It truly is a wonderful bookstore – I'm ashamed to say I'd never been! But I've only started discovering all of the great things Austin has to offer in the last few years since my kids flew the next. It helps that 2/3 flew in that direction! 

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  22. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I do remember your post! Thanks for sending me the link – I'll glance back over it before going to our first meeting. Some of them haven't been in critique groups before and you had some great suggestions.
    It truly is a wonderful bookstore – I'm ashamed to say I'd never been! But I've only started discovering all of the great things Austin has to offer in the last few years since my kids flew the next. It helps that 2/3 flew in that direction! 

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  23. Shrinky Avatar

    I’ve never attended a writers workshop, but would love to find one of the ilk you describe – as you so rightly say, writer’s heaven! (Although I doubt I’d be brave enough to read my work out aloud to a group of strangers.. it would fill me with terror)!
    I truly believe happiness comes from living in the moment and appreceiating everything we have – if this is true, you my dear, are a shining example of putting this into practice.
    By an odd coincidence I also watched a bunch of Harry Potter movies with my husband and daughter, over the span of a few nights, last week. Such fun!
    My eldest has also flown the nest for another semester – I completely empathise with those mixed feelings (smile).

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  24. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Shrinky, the first time I read anything of mine out loud to a class, I had to fight back tears! It was the strangest thing! But the good thing about it was I had to learn to separate myself from it, which meant I didn't get (as) defensive or my feelings hurt (too bad) if someone said it stunk.
    Your writing is so good that I think you would give more than you would get at a workshop, but I do recommend them even if it's just for the connections you make with other writers.
    How fun that you were watching HP at the same time we were!!!!
    I do believe in living life a moment at a time, but I confess it's still a struggle for me! Hope you have a beautiful week, Shrinky!

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