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Today I'm driving to Houston. My cousin died a few days ago and I want to be there for his funeral tomorrow, Ash Wednesday.

Ronnie was only 64. Not old, but not young, either. I guess "just enough time", as the Band Perry sings… but I can't imagine ever thinking I've had enough time.

I'd prefer not to be going to Ronnie's funeral tomorrow, although what better way to remind us of our mortality as we enter this season of Lent than to have someone we love and care about die?

As I prepared for my trip this morning, I got word that a dear friend's husband died suddenly yesterday. For the past two years they've lived in separate countries, longing for the day when she could join him in Spain and they'd finally be together longer than too-short visits that passed oh, so quickly. 

Just over a month ago, that day finally came. And now, just like that, he's gone. 

I'm grateful they were together, that there wasn't still an ocean separating them when he died, but my heart breaks for her as all of their hopes and plans and dreams for the future turn to ashes.

That's the thing about life. We can make all kinds of plans and dream all kinds of dreams, but there's no guarantee any of them will come true. 

Should we stop planning? Stop dreaming?

Heck no. Even if we can't control what happens in our lives, we can control how we react to the unexpected. We can still try to make the most of each moment we're given, even if it we feel there's never enough time. We can try to embrace the lessons in our tears as much as those in our laughter. 

I came across a wonderful reminder of this on Beth's blog yesterday in the video below. I felt it was too powerful a story not to share. 

 

I haven't made my Lenten promise yet, but I have a feeling it will have something to do with my answer to the question below…

"What is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?"

~ Mary Oliver

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How would you answer that question?

Please join me in praying for peace and strength for these and others who have recently lost loved ones, including my high school classmate, Tanya, whose husband died today.

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31 responses to “Seasons and Promises”

  1. Suldog Avatar

    I certainly can’t add much to what you’ve said. As for the answer to your question, I hope I’ve been doing it. If I haven’t – which is a possibility – I’m sure we’ll all have a good laugh at me, and at what I could have been doing instead of wasting my time, when we all reach the place where such answers might be available.
    Ooh, somewhat profound!

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  2. cynthia eloise Avatar

    so sorry for your loss. it does make us realize how short and how precious life is. don’t waste a moment.

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  3. Agnes Avatar

    So sorry for your loss(es) Barbara. I never know what to say in these situations… there are really no words.

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  4. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thanks, Agnes. I feel the same way!
     

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  5. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thanks, Cyndee. I'm getting tired of all of these reminders! My heart breaks for my family and friends who are suffering loss, and also fears for loss that would hit closer to home
     

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  6. Debbie B Avatar
    Debbie B

    “We can try to embrace the lessons in our tears as much as those in our laughter. ”
    I love this line–you are so right that there are indeed lessons to be learned from life’s ups and downs and we need to take time to ponder those lessons and learn from both the joys and the sorrows.
    I hope your drive to our side of the state was a safe and non-eventful one. My thoughts and prayers are with you as you tell your cousin goodbye and celebrate his life with his family and friends and also with you as you reach out to your other friends who have lost their beloved partners this week also.

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  7. silverneurotic Avatar

    I am sorry for your losses. I’ve received that kind of news far too many times in the last six months.

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  8. lisleman Avatar

    (don’t think my last comment made it)
    The unexpected is what we can expect from life. You write about this idea so well. Hopefully your family bonds will strengthen from this sorrow. Have a safe journey.

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  9. Kathy Avatar

    Thank you for the gifts of your blog posts – especially this one.

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  10. Rae Sinor Avatar
    Rae Sinor

    Sobbing…(AGAIN) Imagine. I will read Bloom…Praying for you my sweet and precious Friend. you always bring up such wonderful reminders of the way we need to look at life. And to answer your question it’s simple….LIVE WITH NO REGRETS!!! So very sorry for your loss and for all of the others. So many have my prayers! LOVE YOU!

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  11. Lady Fi Avatar

    I was just devastated to hear about Juana’s loss… so so heart-breaking.
    Sorry to hear about your cousin.
    We really do have to reach out and make each moment count.

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  12. Jennifer Richardson Avatar

    ohhhh how I needed this
    just this very moment.
    glad tears.
    thanks for the beautiful
    nourishing
    life-giving
    share.
    joining you in praying for
    comfort and peace
    and healing of the hearts we love.
    -Jen
    (thanks for those healing ripples)

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  13. JillsyGirl Avatar

    Life is so delicate and we really do have to count our blessings for each day that we and our loved ones have here on Earth.

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  14. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Yes, we do. I hate that it takes sadness like this to remind me of it.
     

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  15. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thank you, Jen! So much prayer is needed everywhere! Thank you for the healing ripples you always send out!
     

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  16. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thanks, Fi. There are so many grieving loved ones right now… it makes me feel both blessed and guilty that I all too often take having my loved ones near me for granted.

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  17. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Rae, you are a great example of how to live with no regrets. You're definitely someone who doesn't take a single moment for granted. Thanks for always inspiring the rest of us!
     

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  18. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I know I need constant reminders to stop taking my blessings for granted – just in case there's anyone else out there like me, I feel I need to share the reminder! Thank you, Kathy!

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  19. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thank you for your prayers. Made it back home safe and sound. I know you're well aware of the surprises life can toss in our path, and I know you don't take a bit of it for granted either! Thanks for all the reminders you give us!

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  20. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I'm so sorry for all of your loss, too! I don't know if it's my age, but there seems to be more of it lately.
     

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  21. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thank you so much for your prayers and support, Debbie. I made it back last night, safe and sound and grateful I can jump back into my normal life for now. I'll continue to pray for those friends and family who won't know normal for quite a while. 
     

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  22. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I think you've definitely been doing a great job of living life to the fullest and not taking your blessings for granted! Thank you for constantly reminding all of us to do the same!!
     

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  23. lisa Avatar

    I am truly very sorry for the loss of your cousin Barbara, and I heard about Pepe’s death a couple of days ago. It is so heartbreaking.
    You are in my thoughts and prayers, and I wish you brighter days ahead.
    lisa. xo

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  24. Julia Avatar

    I’m so sorry to hear of your losses. Thank you for the reminder that life is short and tomorrow isn’t promised. It makes all the trivial problems seem insignificant.
    I guess my plan is to work everyday towards being a better person for myself and for others. I hope to leave this place a little better for having been here- however that may be.

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  25. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I think that's the best goal we can have, to leave it better than we found it!
     

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  26. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thank you, Lisa, but I'm just blue for those who have lost loved ones who were part of their daily lives. My heart just breaks for Juana, except I'm so glad she had made it to Spain and they had several weeks together.
     

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  27. Otto von Münchow Avatar

    I am sorry to read about your losses. But it’s also inspiring to read your post when you so clearly state that we can’t stop planning or stop dreaming. Death is part of life, and we can only appreciate every moment we get to share with people we care about, be it one day or a whole lifetime. We can’t plan for death, as we shouldn’t look away from it either. And those who pass away will still live on in our hearts. I believe.

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  28. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I believe they live on in our hearts, too, Otto. And for that I'm grateful!
     

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  29. Wolf Pascoe Avatar

    I wish I could go with simple grace through every door, instead of kicking at it. Thanks for your beautiful words. God bless.

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  30. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I'm afraid I kick too often myself.
     

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  31. Bella Casa Avatar

    Thanks for sharing the video and this wonderful post today. We need to view more of life and what it offers to others.

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