Today my friend Juana will be celebrating her husband's life at a funeral Mass in Spain. She lost him unexpectedly last week, just 20 days after she was able to join him there, eager to start the next phase of their lives after living two years with the Atlantic Ocean between them.

It's some consolation to her to know his death brought life to others… she says "A man of his age has his liver. A boy of twenty-one on dialysis – his kidney. Another kidney to a another boy of 30 and A 17-year-old boy has recovered his sight thanks to Pepe's cornea." But still, my heart breaks for her.

I can't remember how or when I discovered Juana's blog, Between USA and Spain, but even though Juana and I have never physically met, we clicked and became fast friends.

She started her blog to chronicle the days until she and Pepe could be together again. He was starting a job in Spain; she was staying in Atlanta until her youngest daughter graduated from college, then she would join him.

Through her blog and photographs, Juana introduced us to her entertaining, (crazy!), loving family… she shared with us the pain of living apart from the man she loved… she took us with her to visit him in Spain.

Through her words I got to know Pepe for the wonderful husband, father, grandfather, and friend he was. I could see his sense of humor and his kindness. I could see the joy they felt together, felt their strong love, and helped her count down the days until the airplane took her across the ocean to be with him again for more than just a visit. 

Juana, I can't be there physically to support you today, but I'm following Jen's lead and sending you some Texas Hill Country wildflowers. Not as pretty as Jen's Costa Rica beauties, but as I'm watching them pop up along the roadside again here, they make me think of you and Pepe, and the many seasons of life. 

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With the flowers comes much love, as well as prayers for strength and peace, patience and comfort.

"My heart trusts in the Lord, and I am helped." ~ Psalm 28:7

 

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23 responses to “Flowers for Juana”

  1. Brenda Nowicke Avatar

    I read this one out loud to Mama and could barely get through it for the tears. We’re keeping Juana and her family in our prayers, as well as the people to whom they so generously donated Pepe’s organs.

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  2. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thank you! She's going to need lots of prayer for a long time. 
     

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  3. Hilary Avatar

    Such a heartbreaker. I did read her blog a few times a couple of years back so I’m somewhat familiar with her story. I wish her and her family the strength to get through her loss.

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  4. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    It's going to be a tough road for awhile. This would have been tragic under any circumstances, but during this one of transition, it's going to be really difficult. She's going to need lots of prayer!

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  5. JillsyGirl Avatar

    Barbara, you’ve brought tears to my eyes with this lovely post to Juana. I know, once she reads it, it will stay in her heart and keep her strong.

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  6. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I hope so, Jill. And I hope it invites more prayer for her. She's going to need lots for quite awhile!
     

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  7. Wolf Pascoe Avatar

    I always get my heart broken on this blog. Oh, me, I’m glad they had twenty days.
    (I remember Lincoln took an afternoon carriage ride with his wife in April 1865, and she remarked that he looked happy, and he said it was because it was the first day he regarded the war as being over. That was his last day.)

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  8. CRJen Avatar

    Love the wildflowers!I always think of them as gifts from heaven. Love the way the blog community is supporting Jauna through this. One never really knows how many lives are touched by sharing pieces of ourselves.

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  9. lisleman Avatar

    Not everyone gets it about blogging do they? It wasn’t too long into blogging that I discovered blogging = sharing. Good blogging anyway. I didn’t know of this blog you wrote about, but I know yours and many other bloggers feelings are real. Nothing virtual about the feelings. I became blog friends with Charlie of Professor B. Worm
    ( thefirstbookoftesticles.blogspot.com/ )
    He died recently and his wife has a last post up there now. It’s very real in blogland at times.

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  10. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    No, I guess it's hard for nonbloggers to understand, but it is very real out here, isn't it? I'm so sorry about the Professor. I'll go take a look at the last post. That was sweet of his wife to do it, and one of the most difficult things she's ever done.

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  11. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I agree. I guess all of us have something in common just because of this willingness and desire to put ourselves out in blogland and connect with each other. I'm grateful for the friendships I've made – they are just as real in my heart as any other friendship… and so my heart aches for her right now. Thanks for sharing your beautiful flowers – it allowed me to do something for her as well.
     

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  12. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Those bits of irony are the bits of life I don't like. I guess because I don't understand them and they test my faith so sorely. And keep me looking over my shoulder. The challenge is to see the blessing in the bitter, and in this case it's those 20 days. 
     

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  13. Pauline Avatar

    The flowers are beautiful, and virtual or not, it’s a lovely gesture to send them to your blogging friend. I never understood the “not real” misnomer applied to people who blog. We’re real alright, whether we tell the whole truth or nothing but the truth. We’re all walking sacks of stories; telling them here is merely another venue.

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  14. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Beautifully stated. We are definitely real people with real stories and real connections, and friendships that make us laugh and cry with each other. Thanks, Pauline!
     

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  15. Rae Sinor Avatar
    Rae Sinor

    So tragic Barbara and so heartberaking…Praying for Juana to get thru these next several months as she learns what her new “normal” is…May she somehow find peace knowing she was loved! XOXO

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  16. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thank you so much for your prayers for her, Rae!! Love you, sweet girl!
     

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  17. Debbie B. Avatar

    Your Spring flowers bring your friend strength to make it through these extremely difficult times. I don’t know Juana; however, this chapter of her life has really touched my heart. My prayers are headed her way.

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  18. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I know you'd love her! Thank you, Debbie!
     

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  19. Lady Fi Avatar

    Such a moving and lovely tribute to Pepe.

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  20. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Oh, gosh, it just breaks my heart for Juana and her family!

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  21. beth Avatar

    their story made me so sad….prayers and strength to your friend……xo

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  22. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thanks, Beth. I think it's going to be a long time before she gets over this, if she ever does.

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  23. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thanks, Beth. I think it's going to be a long time before she gets over this, if she ever does.

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