He noticed it when he used the rowing machine at the gym where he worked. A consistent pain or pressure that would start up after a few minutes and go away when he stopped rowing. Perhaps a pulled muscle? He was in the middle of building our new home, after all, and stretching and working those muscles to their limit.

But when the pain popped up again while working on the car one April morning ten years ago, he decided he should have it looked into. He'd read enough about heart attacks to hear that tiny warning voice whispering in his ear.

Our doctor's office said don't bother coming in, call an ambulance and get to the hospital right away.

We didn't call an ambulance. By then the pain had gone away, so we took time to shower and eat lunch before heading out the door. We had enough experience with hospitals to know we'd be there awhile. 

After hours and hours and test after test – he passed the stress test with flying colors – they declared his heart fine and sent us home. But come see me in two weeks, the cardiologist told him.

He did, and he told her how he could get that feeling back in his chest after just so many minutes on that rowing machine even though running on the treadmill did nothing.

So she scheduled an arteriogram which revealed an artery in the circumflex was 95% blocked, in a spot that doesn't show up on EKGs and stress tests. 

They popped in a stent and two days later he was back at work.

Thank you, God, for good cardiologists and modern medicine and stubborn husbands who listen to their bodies and aren't afraid to speak up.

Thank you, God, for these past ten years with my sweet husband. I pray we have at least ten more, but just in case, I'll try my best not to take a single one of them for granted.

Happy Anniversary, Tom!! Thank you for taking care of yourself!

 

Us wurstfest nov. 81


"Lullaby" (Dixie Chicks)

They didn't have you where I come from
Never knew the best was yet to come
Life began when I saw your face
And I hear your laugh like a serenade

How long do you want to be loved
Is forever enough, is forever enough
How long do you want to be loved
Is forever enough
Cause I'm never, never giving you up

I slip in bed when you're asleep
To hold you close and feel your breath on me
Tomorrow there'll be so much to do
So tonight I'll drift in a dream with you

How long do you want to be loved
Is forever enough, is forever enough
How long do you want to be loved
Is forever enough
Cause I'm never, never giving you up

As you wander through this troubled world
In search of all things beautiful
You can close your eyes when you're miles away
And hear my voice like a serenade

How long do you want to be loved
Is forever enough, is forever enough
How long do you want to be loved
Is forever enough
Cause I'm never, never giving you up

How long do you want to be loved
Is forever enough, is forever enough
How long do you want to be loved
Is forever enough
Cause I'm never, never giving you up
Is forever enough
Cause I'm never, never giving you up


 

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26 responses to “Ten Years Ago…”

  1. Jennifer Richardson Avatar

    that is pure gifted sweetness, Barbara!
    oh how beautiful
    and powerful
    and real:)
    love the picture of those gorgeous
    young lovebirds:):)
    big heartswell,
    Jennifer

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  2. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Aren't those lovebirds cute? Hard to imagine we ever looked this young (we still feel that way on the inside, of course.) Thanks for your sweet words, Jennifer!

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  3. Lady Fi Avatar

    So sweet! My mum has had a quadruple heart-bypass – it’s so important to keep our hearts ticking.

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  4. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Yes, it is! Glad your mom got hers taken care of before it was too late! My dad has had tons of heart and arterial issues and surgeries. I'm doing my best to take care of mine! (Hope you are, too!)

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  5. Gail Avatar

    Oh my gosh! You guys are so adorable in that photo.
    As you know, my dear hubby just went thru this exact thing. I am feeling so grateful that we found out about the blockages before it was too late. This is our 5th day after the procedure and he is doing marvelous. Glad we BOTH will have our soul mates with us for many years to come!
    Thanks for sharing, Barbara. I so enjoy your writing style, btw. 🙂

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  6. Pauline Avatar

    Happy Anniversary! Glad you two are still that adorable (on the inside 😉 This is a lovely post – a tribute to loving oneself as much as each other.

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  7. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thanks, Pauline! I think it took me a long time to realize that loving myself is one of the best ways to show my love to those who love and depend on me. I'm so glad Tom realized it, too!!

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  8. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I'm so happy for you and your husband that his blockages were detected and taken care of in time, too. Things like that make you realize how much you take for granted, right? Happy Anniversary of your 6th day!!

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  9. Hilary Avatar

    Happy Anniversary to the two of you. I’m glad his stubbornness works in favour of his health. Frank’s heart attack 8 years ago gave him plenty of warning signs for a few months prior and INTENSE symptoms for three days prior to finally going in. He insisted it was his hernia. He had some blockage, as well and had the stent put in place. Stubborn in all the wrong ways.. sigh. I’m glad all is well in your world. 🙂

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  10. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I'm so glad Frank got a second chance!!! I hope he's a better listener now!!

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  11. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I'm so glad Frank got a second chance!!! I hope he's a better listener now!!

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  12. Dew Avatar

    O Barbara. I learnt a thing here. At times, many diseases are dread silent! Thanks God, yes, many men r stubborn! But it is at times, unknown too. Thanks God again, it is fine with ur loved one.

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  13. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I agree… thank God he's fine!! Thanks for stopping by!! I'm glad you learned something from my post!

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  14. JillsyGirl Studio Avatar

    Love that photo…happy anniversary….and so glad Tom was persistent and saw his pain all the way through to a diagnosis that saved his life!!

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  15. lisleman Avatar

    happy anniversary – we are complex systems. I wish the maintenance costs were lower. How’s your new mac doing?

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  16. Suldog Avatar

    Happy Anniversary! And many, many more!

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  17. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thank you! I hope so!!

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  18. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thank you! I hope so!!

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  19. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Ah, we are way too complex. So much that can go wrong, it's a miracle we work at all!! And I'm still loving my mac – wish I had more time to play on it, but I'm learning a little every day!

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  22. brian miller Avatar

    wow…what a blessing to have more time…and i hope you get even more…happy anniversary!

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  23. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thank you, Brian! I hope we do, too!!

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  24. Wolf Pascoe Avatar

    All this and a Mac, too!

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  25. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Truly blessed!!
     

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