"…..I urge you to do whatever you do for no reason other than you love it and believe in its importance.  Donโ€™t bother with work you donโ€™t believe in any more than you would a spouse youโ€™re not crazy about, lest you too find yourself on the wrong side of a Baltimore Orioles comparison.  Resist the easy comforts of complacency, the specious glitter of materialism, the narcotic paralysis of self-satisfaction.  Be worthy of your advantages.  And readโ€ฆ read all the timeโ€ฆ read as a matter of principle, as a matter of self-respect.  Read as a nourishing staple of life.  Develop and protect a moral sensibility and demonstrate the character to apply it.  Dream big.  Work hard.  Think for yourself.  Love everything you love, everyone you love, with all your might.  And do so, please, with a sense of urgency, for every tick of the clock subtracts from fewer and fewer; and as surely as there are commencements there are cessations, and youโ€™ll be in no condition to enjoy the ceremony attendant to that eventuality no matter how delightful the afternoon.

            The fulfilling life, the distinctive life, the relevant life, is an achievement, not something that will fall into your lap because youโ€™re a nice person or mommy ordered it from the caterer.  Youโ€™ll note the founding fathers took pains to secure your inalienable right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happinessโ€“quite an active verb, โ€œpursuitโ€โ€“which leaves, I should think, little time for lying around watching parrots rollerskate on Youtube.  The first President Roosevelt, the old rough rider, advocated the strenuous life.  Mr. Thoreau wanted to drive life into a corner, to live deep and suck out all the marrow.  The poet Mary Oliver tells us to row, row into the swirl and roil.  Locally, someoneโ€ฆ I forget whoโ€ฆ from time to time encourages young scholars to carpe the heck out of the diem.  The point is the same: get busy, have at it.  Donโ€™t wait for inspiration or passion to find you.  Get up, get out, explore, find it yourself, and grab hold with both hands.  (Now, before you dash off and get your YOLO tattoo, let me point out the illogic of that trendy little expressionโ€“because you can and should live not merely once, but every day of your life.  Rather than You Only Live Once, it should be You Live Only Onceโ€ฆ but because YLOO doesnโ€™t have the same ring, we shrug and decide it doesnโ€™t matter.)

            None of this day-seizing, though, this YLOOing, should be interpreted as license for self-indulgence.  Like accolades ought to be, the fulfilled life is a consequence, a gratifying byproduct.  Itโ€™s what happens when youโ€™re thinking about more important things.  Climb the mountain not to plant your flag, but to embrace the challenge, enjoy the air and behold the view.  Climb it so you can see the world, not so the world can see you.  Go to Paris to be in Paris, not to cross it off your list and congratulate yourself for being worldly.  Exercise free will and creative, independent thought not for the satisfactions they will bring you, but for the good they will do others, the rest of the 6.8 billionโ€“and those who will follow them.  And then you too will discover the great and curious truth of the human experience is that selflessness is the best thing you can do for yourself.  The sweetest joys of life, then, come only with the recognition that youโ€™re not special.

 Because everyone is."

 

I didn't write this.

I wish I had. It was written by English teacher David McCullough, Jr.of Wellesley High School in Wellesley, Massachusetts and given to the graduating Class of 2012 as a commencement speech.

I wish someone had given this to my kids at their graduation. Heck, I wish someone had given it to my class at our graduation.

You can find the speech in its entirety HERE in the Swellesley Report (yes, really) and I urge you to go read it. And then I urge you to print it out and hang it on your wall and read it over and over and over.

Because his words don't just apply to graduating seniors but to everyone. Each morning we wake up to a new day full of moments waiting to matter and make our own… full of slippery opportunities, experiences, and chances… full of places to explore. 

Thank you, Suldog, for posting the link on your blog and making me aware of it!

"Climb the mountain not to plant your flag, but to embrace the challenge, enjoy the air and behold the view.  Climb it so you can see the world, not so the world can see you." 

Amen, Mr. David McCullough, Jr. Amen!

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20 responses to “To my kids (and myself)”

  1. Lissa @ lafcustomdesigns Avatar

    Barbara:
    Thank you soooo much for posting this. I really needed this kind of encouragement right now, this minute, this day. I will go read the entire thing and create a special poster to hang on my wall.
    You done good, my friend.
    laf

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  2. Kathy Avatar

    My. This one took my breath away. And it was exactly what I needed for myself too.

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  3. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I'm glad it inspired you as much as it did me!

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  4. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    It inspired me so much, I figured it might touch someone else the same way and just had to keep spreading the word about it!

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  5. Suldog Avatar

    I have now read it 7 or 8 times. It holds up well ๐Ÿ™‚

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  6. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I think it would hold up forever! Thanks again for bringing it to my attention. And also the Mister Rogers video you posted today! Love it!

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  7. Bella Casa Avatar

    I can think of so many that could benefit from the words you have shared today.
    Jan ๐Ÿ™‚

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  8. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Please share it with them!

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  9. lime Avatar

    i first read it at suldog’s place. it’s n excellent piece of writing and advice.
    i also wanted to thank you for stopping by my POTW. ๐Ÿ™‚

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  10. Gail Avatar

    Such an inspiring piece. “Climb it so you can see the world, not so the world can see you.” I know some narcissists who could benefit from this sentence. Maybe. ๐Ÿ™‚ Thank you for sharing!

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  11. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    It's an humbling statement, that's for sure. I'm happy to pass it along!

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  12. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Like Suldog, I just wish I'd written it!! ๐Ÿ™‚ I always enjoy stopping by your blog and was happy for the reminder to from Hilary to get over there! I stay so far behind on my blog reading these days. 

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  13. Pauline Avatar

    I have a relative struggling with feelings of self-worth. I’m sending this on to him. Thanks for bringing it to my attention. I love that last line! Will be busy busy busy the rest of this month so may not post or comment much but will try to get by to read when I can – I will keep track of my sweets ๐Ÿ™‚

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  14. Jennifer Richardson Avatar

    that is an amazing download of wisdom!
    wow….loving and saving this;
    will pass along to my own kids
    with joy.
    your beauty is amazing:)
    -Jennifer

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  15. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I think this needs to be shared and shared and shared…

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  16. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Enjoy your summer!! I'm glad you're keeping track of those sweet moments!!

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  17. Julia Avatar

    Awesome! I’m definitely hanging onto this.

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  18. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    It's a keeper, for sure. I just have to figure out a way to get my way-past-high-school-age kids to read it!

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  19. Wolf Pascoe Avatar

    Jeez, where’s the You Tube video of the parrot on roller skates?

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  20. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Uh…huh? Is that what you had at your high school graduation? 

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