Summer and autumn traded places while I was gone. The purple flowers have faded, and the splashes of gold have moved from the blossoms that used to line the road up to the trees.

It's amazing the change a few days can make.


Nov 2012-0044

 

“Friends show their love in times of trouble.” ~ Euripes


I drove home from my parents Friday afternoon. I was scheduled to work Saturday and Sunday… plus I missed Tom, the puppies, my bed, my dirt road, the sound and smell of the woods…

Still, it was tough leaving, especially after spending the previous night in the Emergency Room. Mama fell in the bathroom around 1 in the morning, whacking her head hard enough on the floor to bring up an instant bruise, huge and purple as a plum.

Hallelujah, she passed the catscan, X-rays, blood and urine tests, and I drove us all home just as the sun rose red on the horizon. While they slept, I got her prescriptions filled and gathered my things, then before leaving, sat with Mama to fill out and submit applications for Medicare Part D, which covers prescriptions. I found out from the pharmacist that Daddy hasn't been getting a lot of his meds filled. When I asked Daddy about it, he said they were too expensive.

(Of course, Daddy doesn't think they're necessary, anyway, and that not taking them has nothing to do with the recent blockage in his carotid artery. I disagree.)

Anyway, by the time I crawled into my own bed Friday evening, I had somehow been up for 36 hours, running on nervous energy and a few cups of coffee, my mind in a whirl, wondering and worrying about leaving Mama and Daddy there alone. 

It helped knowing my sweet sons were heading the opposite way in the morning, planning to spend the weekend with their grandparents. Tommy took my dad grocery shopping. (I had gone to the store several times, but only bought them healthy stuff, considering Daddy's diabetic and all. I didn't ask what they bought this time.)

And what a relief when my friend Rae called letting me know she had picked up Whataburgers for the whole crew Saturday evening, and again on Sunday, when another longtime friend Debbie and her mom dropped in on them with KFC. Debbie just lives around the corner from my parents and has urged them to call if they need anything at all.

My sister Brenda and her husband will also pick up groceries and run other errands as needed, and Brenda is working on filling out the Veteran's Administration Compensation forms. Plus home health care started today with a visit from a nurse.

Mama and Daddy's neighbors Hector and Estella have also stressed to call them or knock on their door if they need anything at all, and they've been dropping food off for my parents for years now.

Sigh. Such a relief!

It's still tough being so far away. We've tried for years to get them to move closer, and have now started trying to persuade them to move in with us, but no luck, and I don't anticipate them changing their minds.

So knowing all of these wonderful people are close, holding hands around them, ready to catch them if they fall…well, there are really no words to express how much that means to me and the peace of mind it gives. 

It's beyond sweet!, that's for sure.


Best friends are those who make your problems their problems so you don't have to go through them alone.

~ unknown 


I hope I'm that kind of friend.

And now for a few sweet!s from the past week… 

 

Sunday: the full moon keeping you company on an evening drive to Houston; seeing your Daddy back home after a major surgery; your son letting you know he made it home safely, too; an email asking to share your photos of a Futuro Home

Monday: making progress on editing the photos from your latest photo shoot; plumbing fixes that are easy and inexpensive; taking care of things for your parents; a late afternoon walk around your old block

Tuesday: word from your relatives and friends on the east coast that they made it through Hurricane Sandy relatively okay; more progress on photo editing; sweet neighbors; hearing that your dad doesn't need cataract surgery yet

Wednesday: happy photography customers; running for the first time in two weeks; knowing exactly what to get your mom for an early birthday present; trick-or-treaters; a call from your son

Thursday: the smiling faces of friends dropping by to see you and your parents; finally getting your dad to follow his morning medication regimen; home health nurses; online bill paying from anywhere; watching Ellen with your mom; hearing your parents kiss goodnight 

Friday: angels who protect and cushion your mom when she falls so she isn't seriously injured; being there for your parents in an emergency; "character" patients you can listen to when you have to spend the night in the Emergency Room; staying wide awake for 36 hours so you can finish up tasks for your parents and still safely drive home, despite huge traffic jams; the autumn sun setting in the Texas Hill Country

Saturday: time for a walk with your husband and puppies before heading to work; friends who voluntarily drop in and bring food to your parents; sons who want to spend the weekend with their grandparents

Sunday: worshiping with your husband; working within view of a vineyard in the Texas Hill Country on an autumn day

Monday: sleeping in; a long morning walk with your puppies and your camera; finding one Mexican hat blooming near your pond, reluctant to let go of summer; a haircut and color by awesome Michael

 

Mexican hat nov 2012-0048

 

Hope your coming week is full of sweet! moments!

P.S. Tom's youngest brother John has spent the last 2 days in Intensive Care with asthma. According to the last report, he was off the ventilator and able to breathe again, and on the verge of leaving ICU for a regular room.

Great news! But please keep him in your prayers. Besides being a great brother and brother-in-law, husband, dad to four, and godfather to TG, he's an awesome Phoenix policeman. Click HERE to see how he coaxed a confession from a murderer several years ago.

P.S.S. In case I don't get a chance to post this tomorrow…GO VOTE!

 

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24 responses to “My Village”

  1. happytribe@ymail.com Avatar
    happytribe@ymail.com

    blessings, hoping for better days ahead for you and your folks.
    Hap

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  2. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thanks, Happy! 
     

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  3. Ms. A Avatar

    Girl, you’ve been meeting yourself coming and going. Hopefully, things will settle down and go smoothly for a while.

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  4. lisleman Avatar

    All the little things become bigger things. Hope it settles down for you. I just hate forms.
    Did early voting – we are done.

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  5. Lady Fi Avatar

    You’ve had a tough time with family being ill. I certainly hope things have now taken a much better turn for the better.
    Wonderful shots!

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  6. Pauline Avatar

    If one didn’t know you personally, they would certainly get a glimpse into the real you by reading your list of sweets! Glad your folks have such good people surrounding them. This is a hard time for you all. Glad you can find the sweets in the midst of all the angst.

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  7. Agnes Avatar

    Ah, so glad your mom’s tests are good.

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  8. Gail Dixon Avatar

    Ha, I was going to tell you to go vote!
    Barbara, I know your plate is full, but you have lots of willing hands to help get things done. It’s so hard when our parents refuse to do what’s good for them, whether it be move closer to children, taking meds, or eating right. Rely on others when you can and God at all times. Take care of yourself, too!

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  9. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thank you, Gail. I know your advice comes from experience, and I truly appreciate it!
     

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  10. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Me, too!! Thanks, Agnes!
     

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  11. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I hope you get a good impression of me from my sweets! I'll have to go back and read over them, just to make sure. 🙂 
     

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  12. Suldog Avatar

    You’re such a sweet person. You find the bright side of everything. I needed the reminder to look for that stuff. Thanks for supplying it.

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  13. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I'm trying hard to be sweet and see the bright side of everything, but I definitely don't achieve either of these all the time, that's for sure!
     

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  14. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I would like to think things were going to smooth out now, but you know how life is! I'm staying on my toes!

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  15. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Argh – I hate forms, too, as well as phone calls. Thanks for the good wishes!
     

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  16. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I hope so, at least for a little while!! I'm frantically playing catch-up to way too much stuff!
     

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  17. silverneurotic Avatar

    It’s really wonderful that you have so many people around that you can lean on to help with your parents. Of course I know it’s not easy being away from them-especially when they have medical stuff going on.

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  18. Lisa Gordon Avatar

    Goodness, you have had more than your share lately, Barbara.
    I am glad your Mom is okay, and I hope things begin to settle down for you soon.
    xo.

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  19. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I hope so, too, Lisa! Thank you!
     

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  20. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    No, it's not easy, but I've learned to let go of what I can't control. Okay, I'm trying to learn that. But it does help to have so many people nearby that I can call if necessary, to be my eyes and hands and feet.
     

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  21. rjane Avatar
    rjane

    Barbara,
    Earthly angels at your side, what a testament of friendship. I noticed you mentioned Rae, she is a love of a friend and honoring angel to all of us. Prayers for your Mama and Daddy!

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  22. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thank you so much. Yes, Rae is definitely an angel!!

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  23. Wolf Pascoe Avatar

    My wife’s dad lives two hours away, and falls and breaks something every so often. He won’t consider living with either of his daughters, though we’d love to have him. I guess I wouldn’t want to leave my house either. It’s good you have such a support system. Prayers for us all!

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  24. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Oh, how tough that has to be on your wife. But it comes down to respecting their wishes above our own, I guess, and letting go of our worry for their sake, much like letting go of your kids when they strike out on their own in a world of danger. Prayer helps. Also having those friend-angels nearby. I'll for sure say prayers for your father-in-law! 

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