I dusted and vacuumed yesterday.

I'm not sure how long it had been since it was last done, but let me put it this way: I keep photos of the kids on a table near the front door and change them out for each season or holiday (sometimes the extent of my decorating) – and my poor kids were still stuck in summertime, playing on the beach. They totally missed Halloween and playing in piles of leaves and dressing up as Pilgrims.

(Translation: I haven't dusted since before Halloween! I wasn't joking when I said I needed my Dad to come up and clean my house!)

My house is by no stretch of the imagination "clean", but at least the main rooms appear presentable and my Christmas decorations have moved from the downstairs storage room to the middle of the livingroom, thanks to 2/3 of my kids. That's major progress, believe me.

However, a few years ago the decorations spent more time in those boxes in the middle of the room than they did spread out where we could see them. I'm determined that doesn't happen again this year, but at the same time, I'm determined not to stress about it.

Or about gifts, either. I don't want to go totally giftless, like last year, because I believe giving is a beautiful way to show your love, but I'm not going to let that aspect of Christmas stress me out, either, or feel compelled to go even broker in my giving.  

Instead, I want to focus on family and friends and my faith during this season of Advent. I want to slow down and savor and think and simplify.

There will be parties and gatherings with friends. I'll need to work, both at my paying jobs and on my book to beat the December 19th deadline. I'll have trips back and forth to Houston to help my parents with doctor's appointments and whatever else they need.

But over and above it all, I want to stay centered and focused. I want to breathe and love and give thanks. I want to look inward and prepare my soul.

I'm wishing that in the days ahead you are able to slow down and breathe and find meaning in the trappings of the season, whatever they may be for you.

 

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 "Joy is the true gift of Christmas, not the expensive gifts that call for time and money. We can communicate this joy simply: with a smile, a kind gesture, a little help, forgiveness. And the joy we give will certainly come back to us.…Let us pray that this presence of the liberating joy of God shines forth in our lives."

~ Pope Benedict XVI 

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14 responses to “Good Intentions”

  1. Ms. A Avatar

    It’s been so long since I’ve enjoyed the Christmas season. It’s a stressful time for me and I’m always relieved when it’s over.

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  2. Walker Avatar

    Advice I assume you’re giving yourself! Sounds like you’ve got a full plate. I struggle with the gift giving thing and balancing out what’s important. I’ll be seeing one son for the first time in over a year and a half so we’ll have time to focus on togetherness!
    Take care of yourself.

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  3. Lisa @ Two Bears Farm Avatar

    I wish my house was deep cleaned! We did put up our tree this weekend.

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  4. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Yes, Walker, I needed a pep talk! 🙂 How wonderful that you'll be seeing that son, and I hope you do have time to focus on that togetherness. I know you've been busy, too!!

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  5. rjane Avatar
    rjane

    Advent is a beautiful reflection of Christ and the Christmas Season. If you have an opportunity to purchase an advent wreath and candles, this lighting will savor the reflection within the season. It is a gift within itself!
    Breathe it all in and enjoy!

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  6. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I hope this year you can somehow simplify, so you can enjoy it again! I was a little worried last year about the 'no gifts' thing, but it was really wonderful!

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  7. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Oh, mine needs a good deep-cleaning and organizing!! Sigh. You're a step ahead of me on the tree.

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  8. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    The lighting of the advent candles is one of my favorite traditions!

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  9. Jennifer Richardson Avatar

    i so feel this
    and send prayer for extraordinary grace
    to cover and keep
    and lift and surprise you
    with more than you can
    ask or imagine.
    peace to every part of you,
    Jennifer

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  10. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Wishing you grace and peace, too, Jennifer!

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  11. Gail Dixon Avatar

    Good for you to figure out that there are more important things than finding the perfect gift and/or going broke during this holy season. Precisely because it IS holy for us Christians, and our thoughts should be geared with reverence toward our Redeemer. As for dusting, I do it about once a month or a little longer because the minute I dust there will be more of it within the hour due to 3 dogs shaking and shedding all over. I do NOT stress out about it, either.

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  12. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    We are kindred spirits for sure, Gail!

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  13. Wolf Pascoe Avatar

    You can’t live in this country and not feel the tug between the festival of joy and the festival of consumption. The light and peace of the former upon us all.

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  14. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    It is amazing how conflicting it all is, isn't it? How did it get to this point? It boggles the mind.
     

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