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"Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow."

~ James 1:2-3 

I received another "sorry, you're not the right person for this job" email earlier this week. It was for one that I knew – well, I was pretty sure – I would find interesting and that I would be good at, but I didn't even make it to the interview stage!

I just know if I could interview for these jobs I'd get hired. Is that arrogant of me?

But at least this company had the courtesy to let me know I wasn't chosen. There are so many who don't acknowledge your application one way or another. Rude.

It's an humbling experience to hit so many brick walls. Until recently, I've never been turned down for a position. In fact, I was asked to apply for most of the jobs I've had over the past twenty years. 

I'm not giving up, though. I can't afford to, of course, but I do believe there's a job out there waiting for me, a door that's creaking open even as I type this. Yes, rejections can be a good thing. (I'll keep telling myself that.)

In the meantime, I'm grateful for my part-time jobs at the winery and the school district (but I do hope all of the teachers suffering from the flu get well soon!) I'm grateful for photography gigs and photo sales and jewelry parties and book reviews that put a little more jingle in my pocket.

Besides rejection and little paychecks, I've had a few more sweet! moments this past week… 

 

Tuesday: the first customer of the day at the bistro where you're working is one of your dear friends; your paycheck plus some; witnessing the sacrament of Confirmation for 30 teenagers



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Wednesday: a wide open day at home to work on your book and your to-do's; playing your drums for the first time in weeks, and having it all come back to you; a Cheshire-Cat moon grinning through the trees with a silvery smile (small stone #17)

Thursday: watching the sun wash over the hollowa sun-warmed car on a cold morning; a day of errands with your baby girl; being reunited with your 26-year-old watch after its battery was replaced; dental insurance; new orthotics; the silhouette of hills against a salmon and blue sunset; a new book to review


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Friday: the creativity and passion of high school student-writers; paychecks when bills are due; learning you're not the only one who still has her Christmas tree up; joining others to celebrate the life and passing of a friend

Saturday: waking without an alarm clock to another beautiful sun-filled day; puppies staring at you through a window, waiting patiently for breakfast or a walk; your husband taking you to and from work, so that you can gaze out the window at the beauty of the Texas hill country; iPhones and Instagram; laughing with your son over the silliness of "The Color of Magic" part 2 



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“You never know what worse luck your bad luck has saved you from.”

~ Cormac McCarthy, No Country for Old Men

Have you ever had bad luck later reveal itself as good luck? 

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22 responses to “Rejection (and other sweet!s)”

  1. ladyfi Avatar

    It’s hard out there on the job market. I know when I’ve looked for jobs so many people just don’t have the decency to answer and that’s so frustrating and RUDE!
    Love your pictures. Wishing you luck in finding that perfect job!

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  2. Ms. A Avatar

    I thought my divorce was part of a stroke of bad luck, however, if I hadn’t gotten it, I never would have met and married my wonderful husband. Heck, I might even be dead if I had stayed in the first one.

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  3. Gail Avatar

    Oh, I am sad to hear the job you were most interested in didn’t give you a chance to interview. I dread the day when I have to start looking again. Although I am prepping in advance, praying that God will lead me to the perfect job like the one I had in Texas for 23 years. Have faith, it’ll happen, Barbara. Remember, “if God is for us, who can be against us?”

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  4. She Who Carries Camera Avatar

    It’s a totally different world out there than in the “old days”. 😉 With your optimism, personality and talent, a great job is certainly waiting for you!

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  5. Wolf Pascoe Avatar

    I truly believe when one door closes another opens. Each rejection brings you closer to that job. There’s a book called The Antidote I just read. Lots of takeaways from that, including that it’s never our circumstances, but our beliefs and judgment about the meaning of our circumstances, that determines everything.
    As to bad luck/good luck, I can’t tell you how many women rejected me whom I would have had disastrous relationships with.

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  6. lisleman Avatar

    “bad luck later reveal itself as good luck” – I think so, but when I started thinking of an example I decided I was just rationalizing.
    I see you hit the drums a bit. That’s good. Do the the dogs like it?

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  7. Cyndee Avatar

    I hate job hunting, it’s really hard on the self esteme. Hang in there.

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  8. A Cuban In London Avatar

    I can fully sympathise with you. Although I am in full-time employment I am looking actively for another job and have just had three interviews in a row where I was the runner-up, i.e., the loser. One of the jobs was the ideal one for me and when I think of how close I came to getting it (in a scale of 1 to 5, 1 being the closest and 5 the furthest, I was 2) I get very, very upset. But, as you advice, patience is the best method. Many thanks and I wish you lots of luck.
    Greetings from London.

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  9. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Oh, that's got to be tough, too, getting so close to one you know is ideal then not getting it. Thanks for the good luck wishes, and I'm sending you the same!! Keep me posted!
     

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  10. Barbara Shallue Avatar

     
    Thank you, Cyndee! I'm trying! It is for sure an humbling experience. Sigh.
     

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  11. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Well, the dogs are out and the drums are in, so I'm not sure if they like it or not! You might be right on the rationalizing thing, but it makes me feel better when I try to have a good attitude. I do believe it was good luck for me the night my boyfriend refused to go dancing with me and I ended up meeting my husband, though! I was sure grumpy about his refusal at first.

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  12. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    That reminds me of the Garth Brooks song, Unanswered Prayer. I'll have to read The Antidote. Thanks!
     

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  13. Jennifer Richardson Avatar

    your photos….magic!
    and your sweets are the stuff that dreams are made of:)
    i love the way you look at life
    and write it all so artfully.
    there is a wonderful job looking for you:)
    -Jennifer

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  14. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thank you, Jennifer! I hope you're right!
    Sent from my iPhone

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  15. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I hope you're right, Jill!!
    Sent from my iPhone

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  16. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I really feel optimistic and hopeful that he has something in mind for me. I'm trying to be patient about it but it gets tough on those bill-paying days!! Good luck to you, too, Gail!
    Sent from my iPhone

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  17. lisa Avatar

    I’m sorry about the job, Barbara, but I’ll just bet something will come along for you.
    You have a wonderful attitude. Hold onto that.

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  18. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thank you, Lisa! 
     

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  19. Nancy Avatar

    I am also sorry you are not having any luck in the job department Barbara — my youngest son has been looking for quite awhile as well. Keep positive. Something good will come along for you, I just know it. 🙂

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  20. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thank you, Nancy. I'm trying to stay positive! Good luck to your son, too!
     

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  21. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thank you so much, Fiona!!
     

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  22. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I think you're not alone in counting a divorce as a blessing! I'm glad you got it – sounds like a serious situation!

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