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Think about your life.

If you found a way to go back in time to some point in it, would
you try to change anything? Would you take advantage of the chance for a
do-over? Perhaps swallow some angry words you've always wished you could take
back?

Or would you leave things just as they are?

I've been thinking about that as I read Here I Go Again by
Jen Lancaster for the BlogHer Book Club.

For years I said I had no regrets, that I wouldn't change a thing if I had the chance because of my wonderful husband and kids. I've had my share of downs, but overall, I love my life. I'm blessed and I know it.

But the truth is I do have some regrets, and if I had the chance, I'd high-tail it back to the fall of 1977, breakup with my then-boyfriend and attend all of my college classes, instead of driving to Galveston and moping on the seawall about how bad things were in my life right then. (Why do some of us do that, make bad situations worse by creating new problems for ourselves?)

Without the distraction of a cheating boyfriend chipping away at my self-esteem, and by keeping up with my classes, I think dropping out a year later would never have crossed my mind.

I would still have met Tom, because I believe it was part of God's plan for us to be together. (I don't think it was His original plan for me to drop out – I think He just cleaned up what I messed up. He's good at that. Lots of practice, unfortunately.)

With a Chemical Engineering degree in hand, I could still have gone to work at the DuPont chemical plant, where I made so many great friends.

But since I'm not a character in a novel like Lissy Ryder, the main character of Here I go Again who does get a chance for a do-over, I'll just give thanks that God is able to make the best of our bad decisions if we let Him. 

Lissy is a former high school mean girl, all grown up and dealing with the
fruits of her lifelong sharp tongue and selfish ways. She is forced to move
back in to her childhood home when her husband files for divorce and she loses
her Public Relations job.

Her twenty-year high school reunion approaches and, when she sees
that many of her former classmates are huge successes, she gets the idea of
starting her own PR company and soliciting business at the reunion.

Unfortunately, but understandably, all of her classmates despise
her. Even her sweet, long-suffering best friend Nicole finally dumps her on one
of those former classmates when Lissy gets drunk at the reunion.

But thanks to
that classmate, Lissy is able to relive a few weeks of her high school senior year, where she makes better decisions and manages to be a
kinder, gentler version of her previous seventeen-year-old self. 

Waking up in the new present, she's pleased to find that
everything has gone her way this time. She's rich, the owner of a highly successful PR
company, and still happily married.

Of course, the butterfly effect being
what it is, everything isn't as great as it seems at first…but I won't divulge anymore
in case you decide to read it yourself, which I think you should just because it's so funny.

I did have a few issues with it:

  • Lancaster implies that all Homecoming and Prom Queens are mean
    snobs. As a former Homecoming and Prom Queen, I disagree. (I hope my classmates
    do, too!) 
  • She says (through Lissy) that having children makes you look old before your
    time. Obviously, I disagree with that, as well. 
  • A few plot parts felt manipulated. My critique group would have torn those apart. 
  • Other than Lissy and her mother, the dialogue and characters were indistinctive.
  • Oh, and for some reason one character ends up bald after Lissy's trip back in time because in the new future he's in a bad marriage. Huh? 

But overall I enjoyed it. It kept me turning the pages to see what
was going to happen next. I felt it was thought provoking, triggering a lot of
what-ifs.

And, as I said, it was just funny! Lissy is telling the story and her running commentary is bold and hilarious. I laughed enough that I forgave Lancaster
for assuming I must be a mean snob since I was voted Homecoming Queen.

If you get a chance to read it, I think you'll
enjoy it. If nothing else, you'll give thanks your high school years are behind you.


What about you? Is there anything you would change if you could travel back in time?

P.S. This is a paid review for BlogHer Book Club but the opinions expressed are totally my own. Join the discussions on the book here.

 

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12 responses to “Here I Go Again (a BlogHer Book Club review)”

  1. Lbrochstein Avatar

    I would change nothing! After all, if I changed something then I wouldn’t be who I am today….

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  2. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I used to feel that way…we do learn from our mistakes, that's for sure. But I think the blessings I've been given would still be mine – they were meant to be. I think I would still essentially be the same person.

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  3. lisleman Avatar

    I wrote post once about this going back and changing things question. Maybe I should re-write it and post the changed version. I’m being silly. I respect your beliefs but I don’t believe in a master plan or destiny. I also don’t like stereotypes, so it is great to know you were a nice kind homecoming queen.

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  4. Gail Avatar

    Oh yes indeedy! There are a couple of huge missteps I made in my 20s that I’d love to redo. The book sounds interesting and your review made me want to read it. πŸ™‚

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  5. Wolf Pascoe Avatar

    If you’ve never seen Groundhog Day with Bill Murray, the ultimate do-over movie, run, don’t walk to your computer and order on Netflix.

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  6. Juana Avatar

    Hello! What a surprise to find someone who does not believe in a master plan or destiny, I do not either. I believe things just happen. Yes, they happen and you just have to deal with it…

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  7. Juana Avatar

    This is so funny. I was just thinking about this today while I drove home. I was thinking that if I died I would love to ask God what my life would have been like if I had made other decisions. What turn would my life had taken if I had gone to college…and not have married so young. Would I have met my two husbands anyway, had the same children? Just out of curiosity I would love to be able to peek and see…
    I think I will buy the book. I loved your review. And if it is funny I can forgive the author also for saying that having children makes you look old before your time… At 26 I had 3 children and looked splendid πŸ˜‰

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  8. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    You still look splendid! I couldn't believe she said it!! Obviously, she doesn't have kids πŸ™‚  If you read it, let me know what you think! 
     

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  9. lisleman Avatar

    Hi, I think it’s kinda neat to have an open discussion in a blog comment section. I don’t think you should be surprised there are many beliefs out there. This subject is the topic of many books. Free will vs. destiny and all that. I agree that things just happen. Randomness is all around us. But that doesn’t make faith or learning unimportant. Just the opposite. You need to know your self, know right from wrong, know how make the best of every situation.
    thanks for reading/replying to my comment.

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  10. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Let me know if you do!  She really is a funny writer. 
    Sent from my iPhone

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  11. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I only believe loosely in destiny. I totally believe we are given free choice – and all too often I feel I've made the wrong one!  But life goes on and that's what makes it so exciting!
    Sent from my iPhone

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  12. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Oh, I've seen it over and over and over…. πŸ˜‰ Absolutely love that movie!

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