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I took a quick overnight road trip with a friend Friday. We stayed in cute little apartments with screened porches set in a woodsy area full of walking paths… a great place to take deep breaths and relax and take a break from the rest of the world. There was wine, laughter, and great conversation.

It was my first Catholic retreat and I loved it! 

We gathered with our priest and the rest of our church pastoral, finance, and facilities council members, at Cedarbrake, a retreat center outside of Belton, Texas, that's owned and operated by the Austin Catholic Diocese. We were there to work on focus and team-building. 

The word 'retreat' often seems negative, triggering images of running away in fear instead of facing problems head-on. But to retreat from whatever pressures are weighing on you, for even a few hours, can be a life-saving move, especially if you've lost your sense of direction or your physical, mental, or spiritual arsenal is depleted. 

Just as time spent alone with yourself is important, if you're a member of any kind of partnership or group – marriage, families, friendships, even business associates – I think you need to step away together every once in awhile for a break from the routine pressures you're bombarded with, to strengthen your bonds and stock up that arsenal of love and compassion and forgiveness, don't you think?


Tuesday night I joined some friends for Chinese food and a movie. We saw "Silver Linings Playbook" with Robert DeNiro and Bradley Cooper (and a bunch of other great actors!)

I had no expectations going in because I'd only seen little clips of it and had no real idea what it was about. But I really loved this movie, and not just because Bradley Cooper has such dreamy blue eyes. Have you seen them…I mean it? 

Cooper's character has, well, some major issues, but to help him deal with life and move forward, he is trying to focus on the silver lining in every situation. It reminded me of looking for those sometimes elusive sweet! moments of each day. That could be why I liked it so much.

(Plus those blue eyes.)

But it's gotten several Academy Award nominations, so obviously other people agree with me. 

This has been a fast week, and the next one is going to fly by even faster. I'm doing my best to keep my eyes open for those sweet! moments, but I'm afraid a few still slip past. Here are the ones I noticed this week…

 

Monday: the pre-dawn silence of your hollow;  a friend dropping in to see your folks at the hospital; teenagers with good manners; a dog curled up, waiting for you by your front door; your dad's release from the hospital;  a summery evening on your porch in the middle of winter

Tuesday: an easy day at work; Chinese food and a movie with friends; Bradley Cooper's blue eyes

Wednesday: support from your friends when you step out on a limb; an afternoon with your daughter, even if it's just a trip to the grocery store; $400 in free jewelry

Thursday: sleeping in; a day spent totally at home; time for writing

Friday: Internet service, especially after losing it when your old modem dies; a road trip with a friend; the chance to get to know members of your church council better



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Saturday:  Mass in a small chapel tucked into the woods; team-building sessions; a reflective walk through a labyrinth; the amazing way your husband sculpts stones for a terrace near your little pond 



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Sunday: a morning walk with your puppies before Mass; kneeling in prayer beside your husband; sunlight streaming through stained glass; a husband who changes the oil in your car to make sure you're safe on a road trip to your parents

 

Every year we go to our friends' house for a big Super Bowl party, where I mostly sit at a table gabbing, catching up with friends, eating ribs and chili so spicy my mouth feels like it's on fire, with only an occasional glance at the television (usually for a commercial.) 

But this year I'm hitting the road (again) for a quick visit with my parents, to make sure my mom gets to a doctor appointment tomorrow. So there's a chance I might actually watch the Super Bowl tonight if I get there in time. I'm sure that's what will be on my parents' television!

Will you be watching and rooting for anyone? I hope no matter who wins, you have a great Sunday, full of sweet! moments! (To my blog friends…I'm hoping to get around to visit you soon! Thank you for your patience with me!)

 

 

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20 responses to “Retreat! and Silver Linings”

  1. Walker Thornton Avatar

    Bradley Cooper was in the tv series Alias, several years back. Loved him. Have yet to see the movie but have it on my list.
    Yes to retreats. It’s nourishing to step aside from normal routines occasionally..and what a delight to be with like-minded people. It sounds wonderful.

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  2. Gail Dixon Avatar

    Bradley Cooper is one beautiful man. Glad we agree. 🙂
    The game is going on in the other room while I’m on the computer trying to play catch up! Hope you have a safe trip to your parents’ and that all is well.

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  3. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    How could anyone disagree that he's gorgeous?  Game on in front of me but I'm glad I have my phone!
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  4. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I never watched Aliens but regret it now!  I think we can never be totally like-minded with anyone about everything, and that's when retreats are really valuable!
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  5. lisleman Avatar

    Have a good visit with your parents. I enjoyed the game tonight. Retreats are good for the teaching and time to focus on life.

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  6. Suldog Avatar

    Nothing whatsoever wrong with taking a step back to relax. I’ve never been on a retreat, per se, but having been raised as a Catholic I know of the process. There are extremely warm and embracing spaces in many Catholic places, with comforting smells of aged wood and candles; soft sights of sunlight and stained glass; sounds of prayer (or silence); and a general lessening of tensions via all of the senses. And walking a labyrinth is amazingly good for introspection.

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  7. pauline Avatar

    Loved the sweet about the polite teenagers 🙂 Living alone is a kind of continual retreat, with plenty of time for reflection and quiet thinking. I have no interest in televised sports but I read in the paper that the power outage lit up the twitter and facebook boards 😉

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  8. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    It's true about living alone being its own retreat. Living in the Hollow is like one, too. I think retreats like this are good for getting us out of our routines and promoting new thought processes or ideas. 
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  9. ladyfi Avatar

    A retreat and a great movie – sounds like a wonderful weekend.

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  10. silverneurotic Avatar

    I almost saw that movie, but it sold out while we were in line. Figures. Instead we saw Les Mis at a late showing. Still really want to see Silverlining’s Playbook, I’ve heard so many good things about it.

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  11. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I hope you get the chance! We went in the middle of the week, so no lines at all. What did you think of Les Mis?
     

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  12. Mother Toddler Avatar

    I’ve never been on a getaway, per se, but having been brought up as a Catholic I know of the procedure.

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  13. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    This was kind of like a workshop with a strand of personal reflection woven through it. Great for groups!
     

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  14. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    It was a wonderful week!
     

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  15. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    This was sort of like a workshop with time for reflection woven into it. It was great! I didn't know what to expect on the labyrinth, but it was so peaceful. It had a Celtic air to it, I thought.

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  16. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    You can see I'm behind again. Sigh. I did have a good visit with my parents! Thank you!

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  17. Juana Avatar

    Sounds like a wonderful week, Barbara! Lots of good things, and that is so important. I am glad your dad is out of the hospital and that you had that nice retreat. Hope your next week is filled with more sweet moments. Hugs.

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  18. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thank you, Juana. I just hope he doesn't have to go back anytime soon!
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  19. Wolf Pascoe Avatar

    Ever since I became acquainted with Thomas Merton’s books, I’ve had a secret desire to live in retreat. There’s nothing wrong with me that 20 years in a monastery wouldn’t cure.

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  20. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I have a hermit living inside of me, just as he did. I love that living in a monastery wasn't enough, that he asked for his own little place. 

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