Let's just say…

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I found this card in my mailbox yesterday. Inside it says "Hang in there, girlfriend," with a sweet note of encouragement from my friend Rae. She knows me, she knows my mom, and she knew this transition wouldn't be without some bumps.

It's perfect and made me smile. Thank you, sweet Rae! And thank you to all of you who have offered words of advice and support…or just prayed.  

I still feel in my heart that moving my mom closer to me is the best thing for her, which will help me in those times when unhappiness over her life's recent turn of events overwhelms her…and she takes it out on me, while I'm also trying to take care of my family, myself, and my infant business.

Here are a few other sweet! moments from the past week…

 

Monday: driving into the sunrise and the sunset in one day; bringing your mom to live closer to you, with help from your daughter and son; friends who drop by to offer hugs and words of encouragement; the gift of a handmade driftwood cross from a friend; sharing burgers and fries with your mom and daughter in a Whataburger parking lot; your husband building stone and wooden ramps to make it easier for your mom's wheelchair to get into your house, and his foresight to build doors big enough to accomodate it

Tuesday: your husband's help getting your mom settled in a new place; watching "It's a Wonderful Life" with your husband on Christmas Eve; your kids waking you both up in time to attend Midnight Mass; attending Midnight Mass on Christmas Eve with your family

Wednesday: "Merry Christmas" texts from friends first thing on Christmas morning; the silence in a house when everyone else is still sleeping; your son and daughter-in-law picking up your mom so she can spend Christmas with you; your son and daughter cooking a bacon and egg breakfast for you, and then chopping and grilling all of the peppers and onions to go with the fajita dinner; a game of ping-pong with your son

Thursday: spotting a Mallard duck couple swimming on a nearby pond; being able to stop and see your mom on your way into town to deliver earnest money, and on your way back home; watching Shrek 1 and 2 with your kids

Friday: joining your mom for lunch and meeting some spunky ladies; helping your mom get her hair cut and styled for the first time in months; watching a funny movie with your son and husband

Saturday: visits with your mom becoming part of your daily routine; exploring model homes; a sweet card from a friend in your mailbox; chopping away at much-needed projects; another movie with your son

 

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Sunday: making up for missing Mass by taking a long walk with your son and puppies; watching a funny movie with your mom; nurses who take a personal interest in their patients; great hamburgers, courtesy of your husband

 

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Hoping you can spot silver linings in those inevitable gray clouds life blows our way.

 

"'Cause what if your blessings come through rain drops

 What if Your healing comes through tears

 What if a thousand sleepless nights are what it takes to know You're near

 What if trials of this life are Your mercies in disguise."

~Laura Story

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14 responses to “Searching for Silver Linings”

  1. Walker Thornton Avatar

    Tough times, but I know you have the strength to do it, even in these times when it feels overwhelming. I will hold you in my thoughts!! Glad you had some sweet spots.

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  2. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thank you, Walker. I know you've been in a similar spot. I appreciate your good thoughts and encouragement!
     

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  3. Gail Avatar

    You always handle yourself and the things life throw at you with so much grace. Wish I had that gift. Nice, thoughtful card from your friend. 🙂

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  4. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    You're only seeing the polished side. 🙂
     

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  5. Jennifer RIchardson Avatar

    Glad for you in all of the sweets
    (esp the ping pong with son:))
    and big hope for bold, beautiful beginnings
    to you as you voyage into the nexts to come.
    Peace and grace,
    Jennifer

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  6. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    The "nexts to come". I love the sound of that. Also the "peace and grace". Sigh. Wishing you bold and beautiful beginnings, too, Jennifer! xoxo
     

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  7. Lady Fi Avatar

    So sorry to hear you’re having a tough time. You handle everything with such grace.

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  8. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Handling it any other way just adds more stress, right? But, truthfully, you're just seeing the end of the process. Happy New Year, Fiona!
     

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  9. lisleman Avatar

    All the best for a great 2014.
    Being close to others offers the chance to imagine the world through their eyes. I hope you and your mom enjoy the views you both share with each other.

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  10. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    That is a beautiful wish, Bill. Thank you. Wishing you a wonderful 2014!
     
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  11. hula~la Avatar

    Here’s wishing you and yours the very best for 2014. May your mother find peace and joy in her new surroundings, especially with you by her side. HAPPY HAPPY JOY JOY all around! Aloha

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  12. lisa Avatar

    Your ability to see the Sweet Things, will get you through most anything, Barbara.
    You are truly an inspiration.
    Happy New Year, my friend. xo.

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  13. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    If that's all I accomplish in life, I'll be happy! Happy new year, Lisa!
     
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  14. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thank you so much, Bill! Wishing you all the best in 2014, too!
     
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