Celtic cross in Ireland

 

Bridget Shallue was just 52, younger than I am now and already a widow, when she said goodbye to Ireland in 1852 with her grown children…chased away by the potato famine, I'm sure.

If she ever returned, it isn't mentioned in the family lore.

Accompanied by two daughters and two sons, Bridget first arrived in Quebec, traveled to New York, and finally settled in Wisconsin in 1856.

One daughter died on the passage from Ireland and was buried at sea. Two older sons chose Australia over America to begin their new life. I doubt if she ever saw them again; her goodbye to those sons was probably as final and heartbreaking as her goodbye to her home, her homeland and her husband Thomas's grave – he had died just a few years before, at age 45.

And then the added heartbreak of watching a daughter's lifeless body disappear into the ocean…heartbreak I just can't imagine.

My own Tom Shallue and I found all of this out shortly after we were married, by talking to relatives and researching in libraries. We traced his family back to Ennistyman, County Clare…to that first Tom's grave, but that was as far as we could go. There was no Internet twenty-five years ago, no Ancestry.com, and we couldn't afford a trip over to do our own research or to hire a professional to do it for us.

It hit me that I knew more about the Shallue history than my Wilson's, so the next few years I focused my genealogical fervor on that line and other branches of my family … for example, my great-great grandfather George, memoir writer and protagonist of (one of) my book-in-progress.

But today is St. Patrick's Day and my thoughts are green…drawn toward the Shallue family and Ireland. Tom and I dream of traveling there one day, visiting the places that are only names on a map to us right now.

The photo above isn't the final resting place of a direct descendant – it was taken by an aunt or cousin on a visit to Ireland several years ago – but it's no doubt a relative because every Shallue is related. There just aren't that many!

Even these very names…James, Margaret and Denis Shallue…are echoed on tombstones across the ocean in America.

The Australian Shallues were always a mystery to the American branch. Rumor had it those brothers got on the wrong boat…they went to Australia totally by accident!

The funny thing is, the American and Australian Shallues have connected on Facebook, of all places, but I still haven't gotten any clear answers about how they ended up there.

I have no big celebrations planned today, unfortunately. If you do, have fun and be safe!

Here's wishing all of you a happy St. Patrick's Day!

 

May you always walk in sunshine.
May you never want for more.
May Irish angels rest their wings right beside your door.
 
 
 
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14 responses to “Irish Blessings on St. Patrick’s Day”

  1. Gail Avatar

    It’s so hard to imagine the sacrifices that were made by families trying to better their lives. Horrific to lose a child, but having to bury her at sea…wow. Such a rich and interesting history, Barbara!

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  2. lisleman Avatar

    That is a sad story. I hope you do make it to Ireland some day. It really is a beautiful place filled with friendly people.

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  3. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I hope I make it there one day, too!! I envy you getting to live there for a time!
     
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  4. Ms. A Avatar

    Very interesting family history, laced with certain types of struggles and sadness that is difficult to contemplate.

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  5. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I can't imagine it, but when I get really whiny about my life, I think about it to put things back into perspective.
     

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  6. Lynn Avatar
    Lynn

    when you get ready to head to Ennistymon (and I suggest you do!), let me know. The bed and breakfast we stayed at on our honeymoon was amazing and the proprietors were ready and able to bring us to some Shallues (Shalloo there) still living in the town. Tom and I declined because we didn’t want to impose at the last second, but we’re hoping to go back sooner rather than laterand take them up on their offer. Just don’t try to do too much at the historical society there – they’re expensive!

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  7. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I can't imagine that kind of heartbreak!
     

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  8. Hilary Avatar

    Every family has a fascinating past. It’s such a heartbreak to think of losing a child and yet it happened so often back then. Life can be cruel. It can also be quite amazing. How cool that the two branches of the family have connected all these years later.

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  9. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Oh, y'all should have imposed!!! I bet my Tom and I would have. ๐Ÿ™‚ I hope you do get to go back…and we get to go, period. I think it's so cool that y'all went there on your honeymoon.
     

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  10. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I know! It really is amazing when you think about it. It's mostly with the younger generation, though, and they don't really know much about the family history. It's still fun being in touch, though! And if we ever make it to Australia, it's comforting to know there's family there. ๐Ÿ™‚
     

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  11. Wolf Pascoe Avatar

    I love those Celtic crosses. It’s said you can never defeat the Irish, because they memorize. I bet when you make it to Ireland you’ll find some Shallues with a record of Bridget.

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  12. lisa Avatar

    What a sad story this is, Barbara.
    Hard to fathom.
    I hope you had a wonderful St. Patrick’s Day.

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  13. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    It is a very sad chapter, but they went on to flourish in America, so as usual, blessings were still to be found!
     

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  14. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I actually connected with one of the Irish Shalloo's (same family, different spelling) after this post. They didn't mention Bridget, though. I'll have to remember to specifically ask!
     

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