Aug 13-9

 

"…remember someone said that God gave us memory so that we might have roses in December…."

~J.M. Barrie, "Courage" (The Rectorial Address Delivered at St. Andrews University, 1922 May 3rd)

 

There are some days when the not-so-sweet! seems to overshadow the sweet! Yesterday was one of those days.

First, I heard of the passing of a high school classmate from a form of brain cancer. I didn't know her well in high school, but at our last reunion I had the chance to visit with her. She was an opera singer and graciously agreed to sing for a few of us at an after-reunion gathering.

Her voice was simply amazing; I can't help but think God called her home to sing with his angels. 

I don't count her death as a sweet!, of course, but the chance to finally connect with her decades beyond high school, her impromptu performance, and the magic of her voice, will remain sweet memories.

Rest in peace, Melinda, and let your voice join those of the angels…

 

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Later in the day, I got word that one of my favorite human-beings had also passed away unexpectedly. Bill was my cousin's husband, but Sheryl is one of the oldest cousins and I am the youngest, so he had been a part of my life for as long as I could remember. His daughters are just a few years younger than I am. 

He was a hardworking, gentle giant, devoted to family and friends, especially his wife, daughters, and their families, who are truly heartbroken now, especially since Sheryl's father recently passed away, as well. 

From all accounts Bill was a reluctant Texan, always hoping to return to his beloved Colorado, but providing for his family was top priority.

I'm glad he stayed put in Texas, so that he was a frequent part of my life, but I like to think God made sure Bill's heaven looks a lot like the Rocky Mountains, like in this old photo I found in my grandmother's slides of him, Sheryl, and their firstborn. 

May you rest in peace, Bill…

 

Bill, Sheryl, Joanna

 

An easy thing, O power divine, to thank Thee for these gifts of Thine,

For summer's sunshine, winter's snow, for hearts that kindle, thoughts that glow;

But when shall I attain to this – to thank Thee for the things I miss?

~ Thomas Wentworth Higginson

 

In every day there are going to be dark clouds that distract you from the sweet!s left in your path as a gift. Don't forget to keep your eyes open for them… and remember to say thank you!

Here are some I jotted in my journal or captured in a photo since my last post…

Hummingbirds buzzing close and hovering; feeling rested even though you woke up at 3 a.m. and couldn't go back to sleep; reconnecting with old friends on Facebook

Gorgeous, cooler summer days, after weeks of rain and/or double digit temperatures; news that someone dear to you is improved enough to move from ICU into a regular room, and that there's still hope his cancer can be beaten; Facebook reminding you of sweet mornings spent on your back deck with three of your favorite guys, who you truly miss …

 

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A "catch-up" email from a friend; a call from a potential buyer for one of your listings; torrential rain holding off until after your morning walk with your puppy.

A long visit with a friend after church; yummy breakfast burritos sold by the Knights of Columbus to raise money for the victims of the floods in Louisiana; a referral from a friend; rain holding off while you get to and from the grocery store; finally getting to play and snuggle with your foster-grandpuppies before they are adopted; babies who will soon be baptized being introduced to the parish

 

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Making progress on sorting through the boxes from your parents' home that are piled in the middle of your living room, without getting emotionally overwhelmed; a referral for an out-of-town buyer from an agent/friend; dinner with friends at Stubbs Barbecue; enjoying Finite Fidelity's performance at Stubbs afterward, featuring your friend's son on the drums

 

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Following through on promises; a good check-up at the dentist; memories of experiencing Hurricane Alicia in League City with your husband shortly after celebrating your first anniversary, and being grateful you suffered very little damage; a blossom finally appearing on one of your crape myrtles, thanks to all of the rain

 

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Your friends home safe from their adventure to Rio de Janeiro to watch the Olympics; finally being able to walk your puppy after three solid days of rain; great customer service at ATT when your iPhone decides to shatter on its millionth drop; getting a listing lead from another customer while you're there

 

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Making plans for your annual girls' weekend at the coast; your church holding a clothing drive for the Louisiana flood victims; viewing several gorgeous homes with a buyer-client, including one that made you feel you had somehow stepped through the door into Italy

 

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Whataburger, for the first time in months; watching "Community" with your son from the beginning; finding a card your best friend sent to your parents when your grandmother passed away twenty years ago; stepping out of a meeting just in time to see this sunset…

 

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And last but not least, the things your grandmother kept in her purse…

 

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I hope you are always able to spot the sweet!s in your path, and that your good memories never fade…

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16 responses to “Memories, and other sweet!s”

  1. lisleman Avatar

    Quite a range of things here. The sad losses, the cute baby, great sky pics – those contents of your grandmother’s purse – there must be stories behind those items. Was that an old picture of your grandfather?

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  2. Laurie @ Pride in Photos Avatar

    I have my bags packed already for your next girls weekend!…..LOL.

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  3. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Do you ever have a weekend free? It looks like you're always traveling yourself!

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  4. Lisa Gordon Avatar

    I am so sorry for your losses, Barbara.

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  5. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Yes, that's his work badge – his fingerprints are on the other side. He did in his 50's and she never remarried. So sweet to see she had that with her. To me the whole collection.. the Bible, dictionary, make-up… all reflect her so well, and I loved seeing it.
     

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  6. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thanks, Lisa. It's been a tough week for a lot of people. I heard that another friend lost her mom yesterday (she lost her dad in February). Lots of praying!

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  7. Lady Fi Avatar

    So many ups and downs — hope you get more sweets in the coming weeks.

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  8. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    So far just pretty even, thank goodness!!

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  9. Jennifer Richardson Avatar

    I love your sweets:)
    So sorry for the losses. It’s strange how family begins to take on new dynamics
    after one and then another disappear from this life and head on into the next.
    It makes me feel so…..mortal. I love the way you keep both wings set, friend.
    Always you inspire:)
    -Jennifer

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  10. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I'm grateful I can give you some inspiration. You give me so much! Thank you!
     

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  11. Pauline Avatar

    To find “sweets” in the middle of sorrow is a good way to live. Thanks for sharing 🙂

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  12. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Thank you for reading and commenting, Pauline! 🙂 It's always a joy to see your name because it reminds me to go see if you've written anything new. I hope you have!
     

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  13. Otto von Münchow Avatar

    Life is a constant swing between sweet and not-so-sweet isn’t it. And I believe that’s how it’s suppose to be, too. We need contrasts in life to appreciated all good that comes into it. Nevertheless, I am sorry for your loss.

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  14. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    Gosh, yes it is, and I agree with you that it's necessary, or we would just take the good for granted. But it still stinks sometimes. 
     

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  15. Tabor Avatar

    We come for such a short time and hope we leave something of positive nature to those who say goodbye. Balance…all about balance.

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  16. Barbara Shallue Avatar

    I totally agree.
     

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